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originally posted by: penroc3
a reply to: GBP/JPY
i dont understand i reread everything he posted.
sounds like she drifted away from him and was hostile or distant and apparently he broke up with her, but is still infatuated with her?
originally posted by: penroc3
a reply to: Lucidparadox
okay sorry for over stating it, but why not just let it go.
why are you renting space in your head to someone that's not in your life anymore?
(serious question, not being nasty)
Do to crazy life citcumstances, she had to move away. However we kept things going long distance. The thing is however, she hid alot.of things from me, and he personality would change often. Her stories and recollections would also change.
originally posted by: Vroomfondel
Disassociative identity disorder and multiple personality disorder are two different things.
When faced with extremes, pain, fear, etc, our brains have a neat way of blocking it all out because acknowledging it would affect our behavior to the point we may not be able to function. This is well in excess of fight or flight. If the trauma is severe enough or repetitive enough the block can be longer duration or repeat as often as the mind feels it needs to. One of the differences between DID and MPD is that with MPD the personalities are clearly defined. With DID the personality displayed can be transient depending on the mood, conditions, surroundings, etc, at the time of the incident. Each with a special knack for a certain set of circumstances. That association is known only by the person experiencing it - if they even understand the connection. They may not even be aware of the change at all. To them, it may be a perfectly natural way to deal with a given set of events.
A mind having experienced anguish so great as to fracture the very nature of its function is a fragile and delicate thing. I would tread very lightly and leave this to professionals who have the best chance of making any progress.
Good luck to you.
originally posted by: Justso
I don't know personally anyone with this disorder so I am not folIowing your directions though I have seen therapists, especially during my divorce, but I will say this; it is very difficult to find a good therapist-they are good in a ratio of about 1:100. Their words arn't God. Be careful.
The one year mark is usually the make or break it point for most relationships. I understand you are very vested in this woman. Going to be the mother you did not ask for-this is not a healthy nor will it ever be a healthy relationship. You have shared enough that the seriousness of just changing personalities and lying to you are deal breakers.
I know it will hurt but the better question to your therapist is why you are so extremely attracted to her knowing this is her personality-seriously a damaged person-you need a healthy relationship. You can still care but why a relationship? Why do you feel the need to be her savior? Please look at yourself and why the attraction-hopefully, more than physical and the need to be needed; not healthy.
Please take care of yourself-the future with a damaged person leads to misery.