posted on Oct, 28 2017 @ 06:22 AM
Thank you everyone for the kind words and beautiful thoughts. I'm a bit better today emotionally because I have figured out what to do. A lot of it is
a mixture of the ideas all of you have offered with my own personal spin to them. So, everything everyone said was helpful and I believe it is partly
because of all you and your words that I'm sitting here, tear free, with the courage to face this day.
I've decided to make and give everyone in my family an aromatherapy candle for them to burn every year on her birthday. Either lavender or vanilla as
those were my moms favorite scents. The "burning a candle" idea didn't seem like enough to me. But a candle made by loving hands that knew her somehow
makes that work. And creating something beautiful (I hope they turn out beautiful) seems the right thing to do today as well.
Family will be together and I'm sure we will share memories and hopefully celebrate her life. We've not set up anything formal, but we never do,
usually everyone just shows up and it works out. We planted a tree and 2 rose bushes a few weeks ago shortly after she passed, this is a tradition in
our family as well.
For myself personally, I will be writing a few words I wish to say to her, reading them aloud (in private though) and then using her candle to burn
the paper and let the ashes be carried away with the wind. This feels like the right thing for me to do. When I think about it, it brings peace to my
heart. A fitting memorial to her that I can do every year no matter where I'm at or what I'm doing.
Thank you! All of you! As I said I don't think I would've made it to this spot without your beautiful words and kind thoughts.