Thank you all for your responses.
First I have to say that I love all of the diverse responses. That's what we're here for, right? The discussion? I liked the funny responses, too. Way
to go keeping it light. Sorry about bragging, rickymouse.
VegHead - I'm very sorry that happened to you and thank you for responding. I think you hit the point I'm trying to make about the situation being
very confusing.
fiverx313 - I'm sorry you felt singled out. It wasn't my intention. You raised a good point asking if it was a serious question or not.
To answer your question: It was a serious question I asked. As serious as being sued or brought up on charges for Sexual Assault.
Originally, I had put this under the Social Issues forum, but somebody moved it. It does belong under Social Issues.
Ok, on with the explaining.
The woman in question, I've known for maybe 14 years or so. But in that time, I've probably seen her in person maybe 10 times. She's on my Facebook,
so we say Hi every once in a while. But we don't really talk that much. So she's a distant friend at most. I don't talk to a lot of people online
except in discussion groups like this. But we ended up at the same bar last week.
When she grabbed my ass, I was a little surprised, but it definitely put a smile on my face. And she just smiled at me over her shoulder as she walked
away.
But it didn't bother me.
But there's really no way she could have known that it didn't bother me until after she'd already done it. Technically, she 'forced' it on me. I was
touched without any permission beforehand. Technically.
All this talk in the news about Sexual Assault and Harassment has me wondering about a lot. And several of you brought up a good point or implied that
if I were a woman that had this happen to me, there would be a lot more anger and judgement about it.
And if I had done the same thing to a woman? If she liked it, I'm ok. But if she didn't like it? All of a sudden that makes me what? A Letch? A
Predator? All the stuff that others are being called on the news? The same exact actions are going to elicit 2 different responses.
Well, I'm not responsible for their response. Just as she wasn't responsible for my response when she grabbed my ass. I'm sure her intention was to be
flirty and put a smile on my face - which she did.
If the line in the sand is only whether I liked it or not, I think were going to end up a Society that's afraid to do anything. It seems to me that
there has to be some type of harmful intent there for it to be Assault. But I'm hearing otherwise, in some cases.
Of course, anyone with harmful intent should be punished.
What about those without harmful intent?
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