posted on Jul, 14 2017 @ 03:11 AM
Postpone the wedding immediately.
Is the other girl really better than yours ? I mean, supposedly the other guy is a deadbeat, but it's seldom that simple. If he's a loser, then why
hasn't she left him? If she can't leave him because she's dependent on him, then chances are you're better off.
Think about the two of them as the kids parents. If their relationship sucks, he might be better off with them split, but what if you're just in love
with the idea of her, and you find out she's a totally different person?
Trust me I get where you're coming from, but if you've lived with someone for 7-8 years and you still truly love each other (and don't regularly want
to choke one another), I think that's pretty hard to find.
The hardest part is the chance of losing both. Taking the time to decide, or even openly discussing it with your current GF might will probably hurt
her and do lasting damage to your relationship. You could get married, and then 5years from now, this ends up being the reason she cheats. Lots of
couples I know remember every slight the other has committed.
Even thought you're trying to be open and honest, you could be sowing a whole bunch of relationship doubt and a world pf future problems.
Try to find out more about this other girl without getting intimate or alerting others (everyone talks).
Do you and your current girl share the same goals and do you regularly achieve them? That's a really important thing. If this other girl has her
sh1t together and is going where she wants in life, then she should have no problem leaving a deadbeat.
Personally I was more of a wallflower for a long time, letting opportunities pass me by and then I got tired of myself and started taking a swing at
every pitch. That's not always the best either, haha.
Make a list of everything good about your current girl, and everything you wish was better. Go down the list and honestly ask yourself do you even
know these things about the other girl. There might be good reasons she's stuck with a 'deadbeat', and his perspective might be very different.