I have debated on whether to post about my situation for 2 days now. Normally speaking, I only disclose personal details to my brother or one close
friend I have. But I am at my wits end again today and would be interested in some opinions from others that I respect here on ATS.
My problem is this: I have dating/living with someone for almost 5 years now. We live in a house that has been converted into an upstairs apartment, a
downstairs apartment (where we live), and a room in the back. For the last year no one has lived here but us pretty much. However, about 6 weeks ago,
a seemingly nice older man moved in upstairs. He seemed really friendly but quickly started making odd statements to me. For example he would say to
me when I would get out of my car to carry in groceries "hey, looks like you have a great tan, you look good with a tan" and "did you go swimming? I
saw you had your suit out drying on the chair"...stuff like that. So now I try to avoid him, but I have to speak to him every day as he is always
coming or going.
Fast forward to about 2 weeks ago. Now there is a guy who moved into the room in back, which is located right behind my kitchen stove! This guys
seemed really nice also, BUT, every time I go outside he comes around the corner to talk. every time, every day. And he also does this of an evening
when my bf and I go out to have a cigarrette. He is always there.
The problem began Sunday, when someone from here that I know really well...informed me that "did I know that he was a child molester?" sure
enough...we looked it up, and yes he is listed as a sexually violent predator!!! He had been in prison for counts of child molesting, and just got out
in may! that is right when he moved in here! I freaked out! Then on Monday evening, my boyfriend was looking again to see if he could find out any
more details...and lo and behold! he found the picture of the guy in the back as well!! He is also listed as a sexually violent predator and had 5
counts of child molesting! He was in prison the same time as the old man upstairs! And before I knew this...they had both claimed to know each other
"yeah, I've know him for years...he's a good guy". So now I am so scared to even be here. My boyfriend isn't even talking about moving...he just went
a bought a couple more locks, and is saying "just carry all the time and unload the clip if he comes in the house at you"!!!
To me, how many of you guys would say that to their woman? How many of you would say "let's get the HE%# out of here asap!"? I would be gone now if I
could, but it's going to take a few weeks to get my stuff lined out and I am probably moving out. Is that bad of me? is that a normal repsonse? I
would welcome any input, suggestions, similar situations/how you handled it.
And another question I have is this: exactly what are the odds that 2 guys, who both were child molestors, both in prison at the same time, and both
moved into the same town, the same apartment place, almost a 3 weeks apart or so? Isn't that strange? does this mean something? or am I just so sick
right now that my mind is playing tricks on me? Thanks in advance.
*edit: I forgot to mention, I had kind of been considering leaving anyway (in the back of my mind), because I don't feel that he really treats me with
enough repsect. Money doesn't buy respect by the way, ladies!!
edit on 28-6-2017 by TruthJava because: added info