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Why does love for many people disappear after marriage?

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posted on Aug, 14 2017 @ 11:28 AM
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It's the expectations! expectations from the society as to what marriage should be. For example, 1 woman and 1 man with 2 children and a little cute house. Expected to be faithful all their lives and support each others. Along with a bunch of other prejudices.

This above, whether they feel like it or not. We only have one life to live, better make the most out of it. In the end, marriage is no fairy tale, it can be hell. Love as an emotions can be confusing too, who says we can't love as many human beings as we want and that we have to be married?




posted on Sep, 9 2017 @ 06:21 PM
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I think that it is normality which is most appealing in terms of genuine love. Love more often than not fails, likely at least nine times out of ten, because the pathway to it is via the road of romance, romantic love being the next nearest thing to outright hate. At the same time romantic love has an unhealthily high self component to be associated with it. Take all of the sex out of the equation and then try, for should one find love by this journey self will likely be in its place, and as required for a circumstance of lasting and genuine love. Yet another form of love might be referred to as dependency love, love which has to say for fear of rejection and being alone. Another form again, love of familiarity, or lazy love, love of the security which comes with the routine rather than the actual person. There is one way love, accompanied most often with love mimicry. Genuine selfless mutual unconditional love may be uncommon in partner relationships. I do n`t necessarily expect love but I do expect friendship. Those that I love are always considerably junior to me in years though. I have no desire for any actual relationship, certainly not to die old with someone. I want to be able to remember those that I have loved whilst they were still young. What is the point of being a so called individual if it is only veneer deep.Most important of all is that emotion is controlled, love can only be complete in the environment of controlled emotion. When it comes to love we are still overly programmed like animals. It is no wonder that the success rate is so appalling low. Some of us are human animals whilst others again are human beings. [edit by]edit on 9-9-2017 by celebritydiscodave because: Change of term

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Moving on slightly, some of us are so much animals in our miconceptions that we create monsters from out of innocent people. For instance, just because a girl timed her panic attack for when I happened to punch the air in joy I am labelled a pervert. Because on responding to a group of girls/children, they follow my world record attempts (I`m 62 yrs old) that call out my name and waive with the pulling of faces so to make them laugh it is thought that I`ve made gestures to them of my sticking my banana in their mouths. The mistake which I apparently made was in putting my hand anywhere near my mouth in this process of pulling some faces. With society I am surrounded by a bunch of socially naive absolute idiots,
many with minds as vial as sewage works.
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