a reply to: six67seven
Hubby & I will be married 39 years in a few months. We have five kids. (More peeves with kids than hubby! All five were teenagers at the same time!
Youngest turned 13 & the oldest didn't turn 20 for 2 more months!) Hubby always worked full time plus a lot of overtime. I didn't work when the kids
were little & after they were all in school, I only worked part time so I could run them to their practices & things.
So I picked my battles & cut him a lot of slack, since he did most of the heavy lifting! Plus he wasn't home for at least nine hours of the day,
so we weren't in each other's way.
But...since he retired two years ago...! 😉
He seems to have picked up some new habits!
First the good things. He does help with the dishes now. Has always done all the yard work. Only thing he really cooks are eggs, but he does reheat
stuff. Sweeps & mops the floors.
Doesn't do laundry, but will fold it.
But lately I'll hear a noise & find water still running a little in the kitchen or bathroom sink.
He'll open the window, without turning the heat off.
Won't close the back door if he's coming back in in a few minutes. After reminding him many times & then getting p o'd & me slamming it, he now closes
it most of the way, but still leaves it cracked a little & flies still get in! Passive/ aggressive?
Puts wooden handled utensils in the dishwater to soak with the other dishes.
Brushes his teeth while only slightly bending his head, instead of bending at the waist over the sink, so the mirror always has toothpaste dots on it.
And he must splash like like a seal when he washes his face, because the counter is always soaking wet. If I forget to look & bump up against it, my
shirt wicks it up in seconds & I have to change! And after he showers he leaves his wet towel spread out over the bath rug so that it gets damp
To be fair, here's what he says bugs him about me!
In the winter he likes it to be in the mid to high 70's to sleep, I like it 65!
I need the TV turned up a little louder lately, he says I'm deaf!
I like the lights on at night in the living room to watch TV so I don't fall asleep, or so I can read. He thinks there should be only one light on to
save money. (But he'll sleep all night with a heating pad on to be warmer & that's 30 times the wattage of a light bulb!)
I like to have a certain place for things in the kitchen, so I can find them right away. He says that's OCD!
Since I was life-flighted I can't sleep without a small light on. He usually wants it dark.
He's a minimalist except for clothes & tools.
I like to decorate for the different seasons & holidays & to have things here for the grandkids to play with. And...I have books! 😲
My Uncle used to say, that people think marriage is 50/50. But that it really should be 100/100.
So all in all, ours are all little things, so I guess that's how we lasted this long! But personality wise, I'm the easy going one that's usually in a
good mood. And he's the cranky, worrier. I just tell him, thanks for helping to make me into a saint! Bwahaha! True story!!!
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