I'm reaching out...for information and advice.
So we're throwing a huge wedding at our home for my beautiful and sweet step-daughter.
The wedding will be in 10 days...and planning and hiring for it has been going on for months.
Guests will be flying in from as far as Brazil.
She is marrying a really nice guy...and they seem very much in love.
They are both in their mid 20's, currently live in California in his parent's guest house and have been dating for over a year.
My step-daughter brought him to meet us a couple of times, and he seemed very quiet, polite...a little shy...but overall quite nice.
My step daughter is staying here with her mom and I until the wedding and he will be coming in on Tuesday.
The wedding is next Saturday.
Two nights ago, all hell breaks loose...as she is on the phone non-stop arguing and crying with him. We can't help but overhear and confront her about
We learn he is having a bi-polar meltdown and is in a frenzy.
His parents are still with him in California, trying to get him to take medication, calm down...not run away...whatever.
We hear...in real time from our step daughter that he is hallucinating...he is seeing his mother as literally the devil...claims Trump is the
anti-Christ and the world is ending and he has to leave to warn all his friends.
He refuses to take his medication...and his father has to guard the door so he won't disappear for days (apparently, it has happened before).
We find out from her that he has episodes, but she says they have died down since they've been living together with his parents.
Again...this episode is happening 10 days before the wedding...and we had no idea things were like this with him...and that he could be set off on a
frenzy to this magnitude...at any time...for no apparent reason.
As of hearing this, we are telling her we should cancel the wedding...because she is putting herself in jeopardy, physical danger and setting herself
up for a hard struggling life.
Naturally, she says she loves him...he needs her...can handle him...and the wedding will go on as planned.
She no longer wants to discuss cancelling the wedding.
She is also now saying that she thinks she also may be bi-polar...(we don't think she is)...and that taking care of him will help her understand her
own illness...and help her to become a therapist...(after going back to school for it).
She is a waitress in CA...He cannot hold a job in construction.
We also just found out he recently had a bi-polar 'freak out' during his last job interview.
Again, he seems like a basically good guy...and they make a beautiful couple...but his illness seems extremely severe...and I am really I fearing for
my step-daughter's life and for her future.
If he can suddenly see his mother as the devil...the same could happen to my step daughter.
As of this afternoon, he says he has gone back to his medication and she says he's calmed down over the phone.
I'm still worried.
Does anyone have a similar situation or advice to share?
edit on 10-5-2017 by IAMTAT because: (no reason given)