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originally posted by: DarkStarRising
Good morning all. I am trying to figure out what I'm supposed to do. Me and my wife have had a rule for the last 18 years that has kept our marriage safer. We decided that it would be best for us if we set up our house hold to where when she is not home no woman is allowed in our house and when I'm not home there where no other men allowed in house. Our friends and family only came by when we were both home.
As of right now our youngest is 21 and still under our roof. A week ago I broke the rule for him to allow his girl friend to come and spend the night at our house. My thank you for this was for this girl to make me extremely uncomfortable as she came straight in our house the first time went straight to his room and changed into a see through nighty and panties. Now I am uncomfortable so I stay in my room most of the day because of this. Then that night they decide it doesn't matter that I'm awake and 15 feet away from them and have sex right in front of me.
I exploded. He disrespected me and my home.
And now I'm being told that it doesn't matter if I'm uncomfortable with the situation that I have no right to say anything because he is 21. I don't want this girl anywhere around me as I am to embarrassed to even look at this girl considering I've seen everything she has. Am I wrong for being uncomfortable and upset. Because so far that's all I've been told. That I shouldn't feel this way and that I'm wrong. Please help me
originally posted by: jacygirl
a reply to: DarkStarRising
I agree with the "Your house your rules" sentiment.
A 21-year old is an adult. Take the girl to a motel room, geez...how inappropriate.
As for your household rules, I think it shows a lack of trust (or at the very least fear) and that's not entirely healthy for your relationship. Trust is supremely important.
That girl is not respecting you, or herself for that matter.
Put your foot down now before this escalates.
I'm disabled so I am at this house most of my time. Now I have to close myself in my room when ever she is here and what is worse is they neither one have a car so I'm being forced into shoufer them every where they go.