posted on Apr, 27 2017 @ 05:21 AM
I have been troubled with a dire situation since I changed my job 3 years ago. Before I took up the new position, I was working as an external
technician for just about 20 years; wold wide. We have been married for 22 years and have a son now 20 years old. My wife has always been looking
after our son whilst I was working abroad. My absence from the home was normally between 5 and 15 days; hardly any longer. Of course, we had often
discussions that it would be better if I was working domestically and no need to travel so that I could play a more active role in our son's
upbringing. However, I always thought, that because of my work, we could enjoy a slightly better life and have our own home that we achieved about 10
years ago. Eventually, all the travelling took its toll and 3 years ago I changed my job, working as an internal technician for a large manufacturing
I have always been a keen squash player and I still enjoy the thrill of it on a weekly basis. Just about the same time I changed my job I also started
to play in a nearby squash club. There are male and female players with different skill levels and we play each other on a social note,
competitiveness comes second. Initially, I went to the club on my own and later my wife would join me- sometimes she would also play but mostly
accompanied me as a spectator. As already mentioned, there were ladies and for whatever reason, my wife was suspecting that I was having an affair
with one particular lady. In my wife's eyes, I have exchanged some smiles with the lady while I was either playing with her or when the lady was
sitting outside watching me play someone else. At the courts, my wife never said anything and not even on the way home. Often, my wife would mention
her observations weeks later and always insists that I was having an affair with that lady. By the way, I have stopped going to that particular squash
club more than 2 years ago and play my squash now elsewhere.
However, my wife still insists that I had an affair and that it is still active. I cannot prove that it did never happen but I know that I never ever
had an affair with that particular lady nor any other lady whatsoever. True, I might have exchanged some smiles with that lady but I also smiled to
others without any amorous intentions whatsoever.
From then on, my wife started to gather "evidence" that would lead to my "conviction". She checked the mileage on my car, my time sheet from the
company etc. etc. etc. She also insisted that I had a secret e-mail account, mentioning that I was always taking my mobile where ever I went, checking
my expenditure and the like. Most of the "evidence" I was able to proof wrong but my wife would not accept my explanations. I must admit, that my
time sheet did not, in a very few cases, correspond with the time sheet. Out of habit, having been sort of "free" for such a long time, I would go
for a coffee without telling my wife which, in hindsight, was anything but good manner. Again, I have never gone with anyone else - colleagues,
lady(s). For me, impossible to prove otherwise. I believe that many things in daily live cannot always be proven to have happend or not but that to a
certain extent, mutual trust also plays a vital role in a relationship. My wife has seen professionals such as psychiatrist, marriage counselor,
family counselor and others. I have also accompanied her at some sessions but so far, nothing has really helped to put these allegations against me to
rest. I have also offered to confront this lady and ask her about the so called affair. Unfortunately, my wife believes that this would not help since
I could have set the whole story up and that the lady would definitely deny that there was something-she will confront the lady when she sees fit.
In a nutshell, my wife wants to leave me of something that did never happen.