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The study’s author Alexandra Brodsky said she wanted to study this phenomenon after she realised so many of her female friends were having negative sexual experiences.
They were “struggling with forms of mistreatment by sexual partners that weren’t considered part of the recognised repertoire of gender based violence, but that seemed rooted in the same misogyny and lack of respect,” Brodsky told The Huffington Post.
Many had experienced “stealthing” but weren’t sure how to handle the situation.
“Survivors [of stealthing] describe nonconsensual condom removal as a threat to their bodily agency and as a dignitary harm,” Brodsky writes in the study. “‘You have no right to make your own sexual decisions,’ they are told. ‘You are not worthy of my consideration’.”
What’s worse, is that there is a growing online community of men encouraging others to practice “stealthing”.
“Internet forums provide not only accounts from victims but encouragement from perpetrators. Promoters provide advice, along with explicit descriptions, for how to successfully trick a partner and remove a condom during sex,” says the study.
Brosky opens the study with the story of a woman named Rebecca, who had been “stealthed” herself, and found many other women were calling the sexual violence crisis hotline where she worked, sharing similar experiences.
“Their stories often start the same way,” Rebecca said. “’I’m not sure if this is rape, but ...’”
showed me that I might have misinterpreted your intent. If so, I apologize.
The point is this: As a man, all I have any control over, or should have any control over, is my personal conduct. If my standards of behaviour, comportment and conduct are high, then it does not matter what the people around me are doing. I can rest easy knowing that I did my part. I do not need for everyone around me to operate to my standards, I only need to make sure that I do.
originally posted by: Dark Ghost
a reply to: bloodymarvelous
IF she then asks for advice, tell her one way she can help herself is to suggest she TRY dressing more modestly. (You did mention "the totality of all the shots taken together would amount to a virtual guarantee of death if nothing were done to mitigate the risk." Which indicates you realise her being so attractive puts her at an extra risk compared to most average or ugly women, even though she never chose to be attractive in the first place.) Reality is reality whether you choose to acknowledge it or not, so if you DO care for her as you say, it's probably best to use your position as a man to inform her of this knowledge you have picked up.
In regard to the rest of your "male guilt" identity stuff, it's unfortunate you need to highlight the worst in male behaviour from almost 100 years ago as if it has not — at all — improved in terms of the the male collective behaviour as a whole today in the year 2017, while disregarding women's progress in the Western world, and all the accomplishment that has been made in that time.
Again, I am not judging you because I have never met you before or even interacted with you on this forum (unless I have forgotten), but I do pick up some signs that you might be overcompensating for the guilt you feel as a man seeing these other men do these things and feeling so powerless to stop them from hurting women like your friend, that you choose to instead believe that most men have this problem, most men are potential psychos so therefore it is acceptable to treat all men as potential psychos to avoid any risk.
originally posted by: Dark Ghost
a reply to: Phage
I cannot believe what I am seeing. One of the most famous, renowned, intelligent and all-time go-to members for anything science related or if you want to experience a potent sense of dry wit...just encouraged another member to continue his self-deception. How could you do such a thing? I suppose you agree with what he wrote? Have you read everything up until now...please tell me you haven't and just saw his comment and it seemed appropriate to the thread title.
A sad, sad day indeed.