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originally posted by: DAVID64
a reply to: scraedtosleep
That's sort of my idea.. She is a very needy [ attention needy ] type person and the cause for the cheating and eventual separation, was that she said wasn't getting enough attention. Seriously. I don't drink, so I wasn't out at the bars all night, or always going out with the guys, I'm a disabled, stay at home Dad for the last 12 years, I'm always at home, so how she thought she wasn't getting attention is beyond me. If she has any delusions that she has options, she needs to get that out of her head. She burned those bridges and I could never, ever trust her again.
originally posted by: DAVID64
Some of you may know that my wife of almost 20 years and I got divorced a while back......only we didn't. I didn't want the divorce and told her " If you want it, you get the paperwork together and I'll sign it". And I meant it. Before she moved out, I made it clear I wanted to try and save the marriage and if there were to be a divorce, I would not lift a finger to help. In Illinois, a couple has to live apart for a year and you can also, if it's an agreed upon divorce, fill out your own paperwork, submit it to the court and if everyone is in agreement, the judge signs it and it's done.
She has a live in boyfriend, so it's not like she doesn't have someone to complain to. He's cheated on her [ which is ironic and funny at the same time, because that's part of what caused the divorce ] and they fight quite a bit from what my daughter tells me. She also says he's very immature, whines when he doesn't get his way and cries and rambles when he's drunk...which is often. He has a friend that comes over, they get drunk and stoned, then wind up in a huge argument every time. His friend is 40 and still lives at home, doesn't work and is a serious stoner. He also spends quite a bit of his paycheck on weed. He helps with bills, but his wants and comforts seem to be his first priority.
No, I don't ask, it's just that my daughter can't stand him, so she tells me about all the stupid sh** he does.
Here's the question : What the hell? I mean, I have my own ideas about what's going on in her head, but I'd really appreciate your take on this. Feel free to ask questions if there's anything you need to know.
So she went through a mid life crisis
originally posted by: DAVID64
a reply to: onehuman
It's a matter of principle. I will be damned if I do it for her. You have no idea how stubborn I can be. I went through hell, trying time after time to save the marriage, only to have it thrown back in my face. I will not spend money out of my pocket to give her what she said she wanted.
If she thinks she screwed up and keeping her options open, she's in for a Hell of a surprise.
originally posted by: DAVID64
a reply to: onehuman
1. "It's a matter of principle. I will be damned if I do it for her. "
2. "I will not spend money out of my pocket to give her what she said she wanted."
3. "If she thinks she screwed up and keeping her options open, she's in for a Hell of a surprise."