posted on Mar, 31 2017 @ 01:13 PM
What have I learned from this?
I sent a text message to this woman about our date. We set it up, and she wrote that she was looking forward to seeing me. This is a person that I've
spoken to twice for a total of a few minutes. When I think of the phrase "looking forward to seeing someone", I think of good friends and family. I
don't think of brief acquaintances when I use that phrase. I think our few minutes together must have really impacted her.
I'm starting to think that I have a bigger impact on people than I ever imagined. I've written about some examples of that on this forum. My
ex-girlfriend (whom I broke up with last summer) described me breaking up with her as being a personal tragedy, a woman I had very brief (just over a
week) online relationship with last summer told me I broke her heart, a woman I knew from a past job whom I was never friends with (and whom I haven't
seen in almost five years) replied to my friend request on an instant messaging program by getting me in touch with the CEO of an organization I used
to work with (it's the only realistic explanation), I know of at least three women I've known who have cried as a direct result of my communications
with them in the last nine months (none of them are those I've mentioned above), a pen pal I have (not mentioned above) described my communications
with her as "the desecration of my soul" (I'll never forget those words)...
That may not sound like a lot, but I'm a person who stays away from people as much as possible. I have very little contact with people in a personal
sense, so those few examples represent a large proportion of the women that I have personal contact with. I would say that every single woman that has
gotten to know me personally online in the last nine months has flipped out in one way or another over our communications (in both positive and
negative ways). It's six different people in total. One of those times was not as overt as the others, and it only involved a sudden change of avatar,
writing style, and tone toward me and our "friendship", not to mention getting me banned from a forum for no reason (I hadn't made a post in over a
week, and there was nothing in our PMs that was the slightest bit offensive or inappropriate except on her part in my opinion. She had a horrific
past, and she told me about it in gruesome detail. I had committed the sin of complaining to her about another woman, that's when it all changed
immediately, I'm talking about suddenly PM after that.), but all of that happening simultaneously adds up to flipping out a bit in my opinion.
I need to reevaluate where I actually stand in the universe a little, and I have to adjust. I think of myself as being completely unimportant, but
that's obviously wrong.
edit on 31-3-2017 by Profusion because: (no reason given)