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originally posted by: jacygirl
Some of my male friends like hearing a woman's perspective sometimes though usually the conversations aren't even really personal...more like discussions about topics that we're both interested in. If a friend is indeed a friend...they should be able to explain why something makes them uncomfortable without turning it into a personal attack against you.
originally posted by: CulturalResilience
Its not your fault that you do it but it will be your fault if you continue to do so. There has been years of programming in the west for men to pedestalise women as if their desires and wants are saintly and men's are corrupt and base.
Both sexes desires are equally dark but in different ways. Men that pedestalise women register as needy and low value to the female hindbrain where mate choices take place. Try some playful and lighthearted teasing, that way you will not seem outcome dependent and that will raise your perceived sexual market value.
Finally, under no circumstances take dating/relationship advice from women. To understand the female properly disregard what they say, and pay close attention to what they do. A common example of this is when you here them denigrating a bad boy, shortly before they climb into bed with him.
Finally, under no circumstances take dating/relationship advice from women. To understand the female properly disregard what they say,
originally posted by: angeldoll
When you are gushing, do you really believe the things you are saying? Or, are you profuse out of habit?
Profuse gushing becomes flattery. Flattery is suspicious. (Why does this person continue to flatter me? What does he want?) A person knows whether or not they deserve the compliment, or at least has hope that they do.) If it's BS, keep it.
Do you flatter all people, men, relatives, etc. or is it just women you might hope to seduce?
I bore quickly with flattery. But a well-placed, meaningful compliment, can have a great deal of impact..