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originally posted by: Profusion
When I like women a lot I tend to gush over them. I'm talking about so many compliments that you would wonder if I was worshipping them. I do it unconsciously.
I've done that with all of my significant others. That's never been a problem.
The problems can come when I do it with female friends. I had one female friend tell me to stop the gushing because it made her uncomfortable. That's when I realized it was a problem.
I'm doing it with a woman now when we've both agreed that there's no chance of romance between us. Why am I doing it? I have theories, but they're beyond the scope of this post.
I just have to stop. This will hurt me a lot unless I stop it.
Sometimes I feel like the main character in the film Momento. I need to tattoo certain things on my body, or I'll forget them by tomorrow.
originally posted by: Bluesma
Ask yourself if there isn't something you enjoy about giving compliments to others? Maybe it makes you feel good to be acknowledging and expressing the positive or beautiful elements around you?
originally posted by: slider1982
Worst thing I believe a bloke can do is come across needy
Fundamental Techniques in Handling People
Don't criticize, condemn, or complain. Human nature does not like to admit fault. When people are criticized or humiliated, they rarely respond well and will often become defensive and resent their critic. To handle people well, we must never criticize, condemn or complain because it will never result in the behavior we desire.
Give honest and sincere appreciation. Appreciation is one of the most powerful tools in the world. People will rarely work at their maximum potential under criticism, but honest appreciation brings out their best. Appreciation, though, is not simple flattery, it must be sincere, meaningful and with love.
Arouse in the other person an eager want. To get what we want from another person, we must forget our own perspective and begin to see things from the point of view of others. When we can combine our desires with their wants, they become eager to work with us and we can mutually achieve our objectives.
How to Win Friends and Influence People
originally posted by: Revolution9
I have seen your posts here for a long time and you are a very good human being and to be honest if they have a friend like you they should be "worshipping" that.
originally posted by: BigBrotherDarkness
and if it does then it may be an inappropriate no go zone reserved for those they want on more than a friend level.
originally posted by: jacygirl
I think you should just keep being you, but perhaps be aware of the signals from others...their own personal discomfort may not be because of anything you're doing...and merely based on bad experiences they've had in the past.
People typically have some motive in speaking with you and you can see it directly in their eyes.
originally posted by: jacygirl
I'm prone to giving compliments freely but no so great at receiving them, lol.