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What are the trigger words for chatting online?

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posted on Mar, 15 2017 @ 02:35 PM
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A woman on this forum was nice enough to contact me via PM in the hope of striking up a conversation. I replied to her that I was "too busy" at that moment to get back to her because I was doing a project for work. I was using all of my time to do it. After analyzing the situation, I came to the conclusion that using the words "too busy" turned her off immediately. It was apparent by her reply that she had completely lost interest in a private conversation with me. That assessment turned out to be accurate.

That aparently just happened with another woman who I'm chatting with via email. She had sent three emails within about 12 hours asking me to get back to her as soon as possible. I replied to all of those emails within a day, but I apparently commited the sin of writing that I was replying as quickly as I could but I was "a little busy." She apparently took offense to that. She's probably the busiest person I've known, but she had never used the word "busy" to describe herself. After I used the word "busy" to describe myself, she suddenly used the word to describe herself. Her writing became more distant than usual. She wrote, "I know you're busy" as if I had insulted her. I have little doubt that my use of the word "busy" turned her off. I should have been descriptive in terms of why I was busy rather than using that terrible word.

I've decided that the word "busy" must be left out of my conversations with women online. Are there any other such words?
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posted on Mar, 15 2017 @ 02:42 PM
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a reply to: Profusion


What are the trigger words for chatting online?

Trump.



posted on Mar, 15 2017 @ 02:43 PM
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a reply to: Profusion

I have found women think way more about relationships and what was said than men do. I coach high school girls and they literally hang on every word a guy sends them via text etc trying to analyze it for the meaning when the guy probably spent 2 seconds typing the reply and didn't give it a second thought.

Not that this helps you, but you really have to be cognizant of what you say when talking to women...they think way more than we do about pretty much everything when it comes to relationships.


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posted on Mar, 15 2017 @ 02:46 PM
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Nobody pms me these days.

I miss the boobs and death threats



posted on Mar, 15 2017 @ 02:49 PM
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ATS dating......

Sounds both exciting and frightening all at the same time.



posted on Mar, 15 2017 @ 02:50 PM
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originally posted by: Lysergic
Nobody pms me these days.

I miss the boobs and death threats


I know the feeling.

I'd PM you, but I'm really busy right now.



posted on Mar, 15 2017 @ 02:53 PM
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a reply to: Metallicus

I wasn't born yesterday. I realize what you're alluding to.

What is wrong with the word "busy" when it comes to online communications?

I've never had a problem with that word in real life.


originally posted by: MisterSpock
I'd PM you, but I'm really busy right now.


That sounds awful, doesn't it?
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posted on Mar, 15 2017 @ 02:57 PM
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originally posted by: Lysergic
Nobody pms me these days.

I miss the boobs and death threats


And when you find them writing poems about other guys doodles, sending titty pics to mommy wars and generally being tarts.

but they never do that, they promise.

saying "I'm a little busy" and getting the nose grow, is nothing OP...



posted on Mar, 15 2017 @ 02:59 PM
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originally posted by: MisterSpock
ATS dating......

Sounds both exciting and frightening all at the same time.


not really.. but it lands you where you should have been, that's for sure.

look at me, jaded, sorry, but I'm a two time contender.

I dont trust anyone any more.



posted on Mar, 15 2017 @ 03:02 PM
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White, christian, gun, republican, husband, father.

I'm sure there's more....



posted on Mar, 15 2017 @ 03:04 PM
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originally posted by: Natas0114
White, christian, gun, republican, husband, father.

I'm sure there's more....


DID you just assume my gender??

*side eyes*



posted on Mar, 15 2017 @ 03:05 PM
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a reply to: Profusion

quit being "busy" dammit, your passing up all the p***y!!


lol probably not a true story, but I wanted to say it anyhow.



posted on Mar, 15 2017 @ 03:15 PM
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a reply to: savemebarry

No, I was answering the question of the op.



posted on Mar, 15 2017 @ 03:22 PM
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a reply to: Profusion

Does anyone actually date anymore?

Been married for so long I feel like I've been Madella'd when people talk about dating.

Meet a nice girl at a library, go to your local sock-hop, invite a nice gal from church out for a malted, those are the things you should be doing than googling your twitter with the ladies.



posted on Mar, 15 2017 @ 03:23 PM
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Kind of hoping the other party chimes in and we hear BOTH sides of this story.

Otherwise, I'm calling FAKE NEWS!

What's the agenda, where's the angle. Why does some of the OP's information lead back to nasa, and what is their involvement. Why is it that each time I click on this thread the OP seems to have been changed in minor ways(several words missing). Who's editing it, and why, what are they hiding, why do it so openly?

Do they know that I know that they think that I don't know what they are doing?????



posted on Mar, 15 2017 @ 03:27 PM
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a reply to: Profusion

anal

felatio

kill any convo - stone dead



posted on Mar, 15 2017 @ 03:28 PM
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originally posted by: ignorant_ape
a reply to: Profusion

anal

felatio

kill any convo - stone dead


It's 2017 man, those are pick up lines these days.



posted on Mar, 15 2017 @ 03:30 PM
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If some woman can't wait 24 hours to hear from you, get rid of her.

I know I am old, but I am sick of this "instant gratification", "I want it now" crap.

If I become single again, apparently I will being staying that way.


To clarify: If the men are that way too. LOL
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posted on Mar, 15 2017 @ 03:36 PM
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Op.. thank GOD ( or whomever) she got all butt hurt over it. You really want to deal with someone THAT sensitive?? Good lord.. you just dodged a bullet. a MISSILE. A NUCLEAR BOMB.

It would be like a friend of mine.. he has this girlfriend who wont let him finish taking a poop without demanding he talk to her through the door. If he says he is trying to poop.. she goes nuts and screeches. Can you imagine years of that?? Good thing he told me he is only messing with her cause of her "proclivities" in the bedroom.. temporarily. WHEW. I feared he would eventually develop some pathological aversion to taking a crap and need to seek therapy.. and enemas.



posted on Mar, 15 2017 @ 04:19 PM
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@OP While the answer is obvious, you recognize, she´s probably going to read this?



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