posted on Mar, 8 2017 @ 07:04 AM
Its something friends can choose to do for each other. You have the freedom to make almost any thread you want. You also have the fredom to, as some
have chosen to do, invest the time and effort necessary to develop a closer and more meaningful relationship with others who are willing to
I personally hardly ever interact with others conversationaly on this site to an extent of more than just one reply. If people reply to a post i made,
i usually will never see that since i almost never return to a thread after ive posted. I do reply to pretty much all PMs out of courtesy.
And I know if I really wanted to, I could form or become a part of a group of buddies and high five eachother and do bday threads and maybe real life
meetups, lots of PMs I imagine, and all sorts of extra side interactions, like wall activity, avatar suggestion/creation, discussion of real life
personal issues, meeting on other sites, etc; to enhance and accessorize my ATS experience, and it would probably be fun, but that's just not what im
And I'm not saying anyone else came here and said "Alright! Time to Clique UP". Some people are just more social in certain situations, and some
people just make natural friends with eachother without either person planning it that way. And then there are some people who just seem to make
friends wherever they go, and that's actually a little like me in real life, but just extremely rarely online.
It's all just a matter of how one chooses to allot their time and energy in different ways. I spend way to much time reading on ats and my occassional
post is always monstrous in size.No time for socializing here for me. i get my social needs taken care of by other means. Other people may have a busy
or chaotic schedule/life and an online social life is easiest, or may be all that's feasible for indefinite periods, or they just prefer this medium,
or they divide their social life across a wide array of modes and formats.
The fact thst other individuals choose to take the liberty of exercizing their freedom in this way doesn't bother me in the least. In fact sometimes I
might even get a chuckle at watching some of the humorous or playful interactions between these members. Sometimes it can be less than pleasing, but
it's not everyone's job to make sure that I'm pleased 24/7, and same goes with you.
I'm actually in a state of disbelief that you would chose to make a thread like this. That's why I replied, my curiosity is piqued. Are you thinking
there should be a rule against these threads on the basis that someone may get their feelings hurt? Because they were left out? Or are you more
thinking that it shouldn't be a rule officially, but you want people to voluntarily stop this tradition? Or you don't really want anything to
necessarily be done about it but you are just pointing out how shocked you are that people could be so inconsiderate, rude, elitist, cliquish,
It kind of seems like you want everyone to walk on eggshells to make sure they don't accidentally offend somebody. You can't even wish a friend happy
birthday anymore or throw them a bday party/thread? Then why the hell don't I see you out here every day volunteering your time to make a thread once
per day with a message saying " happy bday/anniversary/etc to whomever it may concern on this day?"
Then everyone would be technically covered, AND those who want to add any additional personalized bday thread parties for their friends may continue
to do so, with the daily generic thread as the default party thread for whoever has a special event for that day. I mean, i think its a little
ridiculous personally, but, I also think it's a much better solution than eliminating ALL celebratory threads. And that should be a workable
compromise to address your concerns...?