posted on Feb, 27 2017 @ 06:40 PM
A few other thoughts, my friend's recent "admirer" - which is "work related". I am supposed to "be vague" on this. For those who think that others
may be "watching them" - my answer to that is - who in the hell really cares that much about you? They probably don't. No one probably does. And I
myself have been a stalking victim. Which, there are enough of them out there, but on average you're not likely to come across one.
I have many thoughts here, I am musing on being an "attractive woman". I am, and so is my friend here. I'm the blond, she's the brunette. She wants me
to put here, if I'm going to talk about her, that I used to be involved with a fairly well known musician. She thinks this is "cool" and that I can
"get that type of guy". He's just a person. No, he wasn't 'super famous' either. More locally known. No, it wasn't Billy Corgan.
I suppose why I even mention this, two reasons, for you kids out there thinking you have to be a "badass" - or an asshole - this particular guy was
very professional. College graduate and took music seriously. Very nice person also, and a good cook, and if I cooked he'd jump right up and do the
dishes. Good guy. Very serious in all endeavors and cared about others. Has lots of friends and a huge "following". You don't get those by being an
asshole. We parted on good terms and I can't think of one bad thing to say about the man.
My friend. I think she's better looking than me. Has the exotic eurasian looks. She wishes to be blond, no way, she's better looking. Another thing
we have in common: We don't think all that highly of ourselves and do in fact consider ourselves to be "average". That's her term. That's what she
says: I'm Jane Average.
It's an inaccurate assessment and you can see in others what you don't see in yourself. Women like us think that you must be a super perfect porn
star, what woman - or man - doesn't worry over looks?
And if you are "different looking" - that can be good or bad. Yes models should be tall - but for the rank and file female - that might be a
disadvantage. And slim is good too - but is a size 8 too big? Meanwhile, your chest is not big enough. Friend is yelling: I only have a 36B chest!
Because of this she says that she wonders why men look at her at all.
She's got the face, the bone structure, with those big (blue!) asian eyes. And an excellent body. 36B chest! She says that's a FAIL and says "I am
Jane Average". No way, she's very pretty. Men drool all over her.
My one grandma said - "The Jewish girls are always very pretty". There are men advertising for Jewish women on Craigslist! WTF?
And that's a work thing too, for anyone, there are "construction guys" advertising on CL to trade their services for sex.
Yes I saw those too. We all need repair people from time to time.
So who knows what may happen with some guy, some tradesman, you may call?
And that's the tale I was going to tell - friend here now has "one of these guys" with his eye on her. It's my fault too because I thought they were
ok. Not some random ad either, people "known in the neighborhood" here, people recommended to me, so I told her. Person in question is, I think, ok
too and would not do harm to anyone, I've know this person for a few years and know others who have known him longer. There is no worry of "harm".
But the guy is still clearly pretty interested in her, and he's kind of a "ladies man" and might get a bit grabby....
I don't believe it would escalate beyond that.
Still. A person needs to put up with various crap - which some might call "flirtation" - WHY?
When you are just trying to execute a project, and the guy is married! - I think he might be shopping for a new and younger wife.
Women are just trying to get things done and if we say thank you that must mean we're madly in love with the guy?
And or they want to sex you. Or trade in for a newer model.
Or who knows what else?
Just because I asked you to fix my toilet, that doesn't mean I'm looking for a fisting.
Try not to read too much into things. Do us ladies a favor.
It's funny too because about THE ONLY thing that gets lechers off your back is to say you're married. Or have a serious BF. They usually still
It's hard to have men breathing down your neck all the time. Even when you try to avoid it, you are not looking for it, you are trying to be
professional. You will still get the lechers.
I have to say that I'm surprised at how much men ruminate over these things too. Friend agrees. We thought you guys wanted some big busted brain dead
bimbo? Isn't that your ideal? So why the hell are you even looking at us?
Or is it that you'll just take anyone?
Can you at the least BACK OFF in professional settings?