a reply to: deadlyhope
Well, the good thing is that you're hungry and have the desire to want more. That is very important and something that all of us should always have
and make sure never gets extinguished. I'm not proposing that people should live their lives being greedy and overly materialistic.... but we should
maintain our desire to grow and prosper.
As for your OP and much of the replies on this thread... I think some people may not be seeing the forest for the trees.
It seems like much of the advice offered (and a bit about your OP) seems geared at finding a job. The wish seems to be that, as if turning on a light
switch, a few phone calls or few resumes sent will suddenly bring life altering income. While there may be a job out there that provides an income
marginally larger than one is presently earning, that quick-fix is likely all that it will bring.
If you are seeking what I think you are seeking (an overall comfort level with potential for growth in the future) it isn't a "job" that you should be
looking for. Rather, you need to establish a career.
I can feel the sense of urgency in your OP and I hate to be a stick-in-the-mud but careers take time to develop. They don't just "happen." If
earning a relatively large income was as easy as just finding a new job.... then everyone would do it and everybody would be financially happy.
Everyone gets dealt a different hand but I suspect that by and large, most of us have to start towards the bottom and work our way up and make
sacrifices. Particularly early in our careers we make sacrifices. Big, fat sacrifices. I've written about my own experiences here on ATS in
previous threads so I won't do so again (and bore people). Let's just say that when starting a career you sometimes have to pay a lot on the front
end to reap greater rewards down the road.
I want to be clear, OP, that I don't know you from a hole in the wall so I want you to understand that I'm NOT saying this
but I'm thinking about someone I worked with a few years back.
He was (and of course still is) the same age as me, yet he was a file clerk while I was an assistant project manager on medium to small-large projects
and just . He was b-tching and complaining that he didn't have more responsibilities and didn't earn a bigger salary. It was only because I was
comfortable speaking freely with him that I said (paraphrase), "What do you expect? You don't get to run around and have fun all the time... and work
as little as possible... and earn enough just to feed your partying.... for YEARS.... then decide that you're done with that phase of your life and
NOW you want a real career and expect it to be waiting for you. It doesn't work like that. While you were partying, other people were working their
rear ends off."
Perhaps I went off on a tangent there but my point is.... while you do need to find gainful employment in the short term to provide for your
family.... I simply suggest that you keep the long-term big-picture in mind. Find an industry that will provide you with a job that, assuming you
apply yourself, has room for growth and can provide year-over-year salary increases (as you learn).
One other thing I wanted to throw my two cents in about....
Not only on ATS but all over the place I hear different variations of, "If you do what you love, you will never work
a day in your life." That
sounds very pretty... but it is also a bit of malarkey. While I don't condone working in an industry (or in a job) that you despise
thing about "doing what you love" is a bit silly.
It's not about "doing what you love" because doing what you love may or may not have economic value. It's about finding that intersecting point where
what you "like enough" meets what makes you "financially comfortable."
Using myself as an example, again...... I like what I do. I really do. I don't LOVE it but I like it. What I really REALLY like is the financial
security it provides for me and my family. Remember that you work to live, not the other way around. I don't mind going to work even on those days
when I know I won't be doing something I love.... because I know that at the end of the day I'll be coming home to the beautiful home we've created
and we will have the piece of mind (financially) to enjoy eachother's company.
(A bit all over the place but I've been writing this off and on for about an hour.......).
Best of luck to you and don't get discouraged and stay hungry.