posted on Feb, 19 2017 @ 12:57 AM
In most of my past relationships, I tend to have the positive memories linger longer than the negative ones.
I remember the person who made me laugh, I remember his kindness, or his smile, or the intimate closeness we once shared.
I still speak fondly of my past boyfriends, even the ones with whom I had a messy ending with, or our relationship took a clearly degenerative turn
for a period before actually severing.
I have stayed in friendly contact with most of them. Not too long ago I found my first serious long term boyfriend on Facebook, and was happy i did.
He had been practically a part of my family, and even my stepdad and brother were happy to have contact with him again. I just find it hard to
understand how people who were once so close can NOT be friends after the romance is over!
After a few exchanges, he said something like "let me know if you ever decide to leave your husband" and unfriended me. Looking over his messages
again, I realized he didn't feel completely "over" me, or else it awakened affections that had faded, and was painful for him to see me again. I felt
bad. I didn't mean to upset his life. I find it hard to believe he could still feel that way, considering the long period of time, the way I've aged
and gotten unattractive, and both of us having grown children and a whole history behind us!
I didn't do it to hurt him, or to feed my ego... I just really loved him once, because I thought he was a good person and had a wonderful sense of
humor. I wish we could be friends now. I never stopped appreciating the person he was, even when I didn't feel like having a romantic and sexual
I think us women can sometimes be a bit naive about the way men think and feel.