posted on Feb, 7 2017 @ 03:32 AM
How do we achieve a balance between dispensing beneficial advice to others, and allowing others to experience and learn by themselves?
Especially when it comes to children and young adults, telling them about how to avoid preventable hardships you have undergone yourself is very
tempting, self-rewarding and often praiseworthy from others. But is there such a thing as sharing too much information that might interfere with the
lives they are destined to live and lessons they are set to learn along the way?
Do you have a duty or obligation to warn others of challenges and obstacles you can foresee in their lives if you see them heading down a path you
have taken in the past?
Some might say it depends on your own moral compass. If you see a likely danger or misfortune ahead of somebody else and have the opportunity to
forewarn them of the potential suffering they will experience, is it not your responsibility to warn them?
Others might say it depends on your relationship with the person in question. If you are the parent of the child, then it is your duty to warn them
and recount your own experiences. But how close (or distant) does your relationship need to be in order to dispense advice that you are certain will
be beneficial for them to hear?
Furthermore, the other crowd might suggest being conservative with your advice as not to interfere with the individual's life lessons, which are
usually best learned through personal experience.
I am not (yet) a parent, but questions such as these are so unnerving that I feel ambivalent about bringing another life into this world — one whose
childhood and transition into adulthood I will be directly responsible for moulding. Contrary to the wishes of many parents out there, you cannot
raise a child inside a bubble and forewarn them about everything that lies ahead so as to allow them to avoid pain, misery and suffering.
However, when it comes to aiding a young mind, how best does one achieve the delicate balance where they will then develop into an informed, aware and