originally posted by: Wang Tang
From your experiences, what do you guys think are the best places to meet someone?
Well, the absolute best place is the Church. Even if you're not particularly religious. That's because people who go to church tend to have ideas of
stability and family in their heads, and have the right sort of motives for long term relationships.
The next best place is at work. Get a job at a large company with lots of employees, so you'll have a statistical chance of finding someone. The
advantage of the corporate friend is that you immediately have things in common to talk about.
Of course, if you're looking for a one night stand, then there's no better place than the bar, pub, or nightclub. But, that usually requires a special
"pick up" skill, that introverts don't usually possess.
For an introvert, it's the church or company you work for.
An alternative is to join some club of volunteers, that do something in your neighborhood. That's usually a good place, since people willing to
volunteer their time and effort to help others already have the main ingredient of "sharing" that's required for a good relationship. This would also
help to pull an introvert out of his shell, so he can open up to others a bit better.
Next up is to join a cycle club, or walking club, a sail boat club, etc., get some exercise together with a bunch of other people, so you're doing fun
Depending on how picky you are, it could take awhile, trying out all these various possibilities, to find that special someone.
But, these are the traditional ways.
Of course the best of all ways is during college years, since you generally have both the time and the right youth energy for the hunt, and everybody
you meet is usually single. But, those days are gone for you, so check out the alternatives mentioned above.
Finally, there's the dating "service". That's for people who have no time to do any of the above.