That's a lot to respond to after throwing that all of y'all's way at 2:30 in the morning (here in the Midwest).
, no, because they wouldn't let me even state where I'm coming from. But it goes far beyond that, this is a recuring thing where it
seems my opinion and thoughts are totally disrespected, and the individuals involved have all the answers and don't need to know where I'm coming
from. Sadly, this is the case in many of the intrapersonal relationships I have because I don't get angry, or shout over them, typically. I just shut
up with a small smile on my face and let them preach, when they're done I try again.
, You seem to have a pretty good idea where I'm coming from. However, I wouldn't say that 25% of the people have common sense. I
would say people display common sense 25% of the time. I have lucid periods where I know it all and don't care where anyone else is coming from as
I'm sure we all have. People on average, though, seem to display this lack of common sense a lot more often that most people here at ATS do.
, my biggest contention with last night was that I couldn't give my opinion. Every time I would try I'd get steamrolled. That's why I
finally gave up and walked away from the conversation. That was one instance, though, but this is a recurring problem in my life which is why I've
posed it as it is. There's something I'm doing wrong in my relationships with friends and deeper relationships.
I know, that does work quite well, but in the heat of the moment it doesn't always occur to me to do so. I do like that debate tactic when
someone's not listening, though. Bizzare, that is. I don't like to fart or be rude in public
, I have the problem in all three of those categories, and would like to address the relationship one, though that wasn't the
relationship I had with the people last night, they were family. What if you love someone, but know that the relationship is just wrong and you're
bringing eachother down? I've been in one of those for a while now and am trying to walk away, but she won't let me. I still really care for her,
but every time I walk away, she does something to bring be back in. Ergh.
, it wasn't a difference of opinion that bothered me. It was the fact that they didn't give a krump about my opinion. I wasn't able to
really share it, and when I did get it out, you may have noticed in conversations I state an extreme opinion, then justify and rectify it. This is
mainly due to people shutting me out and steamrolling over my words; when it's really extreme, they want to know how the heck I could believe
something like that. Difference of opinion is fantastic. I am in the minority here at ATS in most of my opinions. If I didn't like the difference,
I'd be on some religious right wing discussion board, not a generally liberal conspiracy board (If you believe that to be false, take that up with me
on another thread or via U2U, as it's way off topic and will spur a very long discussion).
, for the most part, all of my friends and most of my family believes the exact opposite I do. I have a few like minded friends,
but I love to debate, and my closest friends are the ones where we have some fantastic conversations. As I'd said in another thread the other day, I
know I'm probably not going to convince them they're wrong. The major reason I do so is to show that my opinion is valid as well, and based on
information I've gathered, not just pulled outta my rear. The friends I have who are the same way I respect greatly, though I think they're dead
wrong in their opinion and they respect me. However, if I can't explain where I'm coming from, how can they know that it's an educated opinion
instead of following what mommy and daddy told me when I was growing up?
As for teenage girls, I won't even bother going there with my cousins that age, and it stands the same with the teen boys, though the girls are
usually a lot more liberal and hate, yes hate, where I am coming from without knowing why. Really no point, I'll wait for them to get a little bit
, choosing your battles in core to life; it gives weight to those battles you do fight. Thankfully, my "angry" response is to
typically shut up. Another important lesson my parents ingrained into me was if you can't say something good don't say anything at all. When the
conversation turns to insults and I'm ready to start on that path, too, I usually catch myself and clam up. In text, I tend to not do this so much,
but with words, you can't review them after you say them and decide if you're going to modify them or let it fly. As a result, I don't speak
fearing passion will cause me to say something I'll regret after the fact. That's also why I can pour my heart out to someone in an email and then
not give them any
window into my life in person (I need to talk to my pastor about this, because he's one of the people I do that with and I
can tell he's really confused by it. He is, by the way, an extreme extrovert and I'm an extreme introvert, too.)
Whew, I think I addressed everyone. Thanks for taking the time to reply to this, all of your feedback is really appreciated. This is a question I've
been pondering for many years, and the combonation of alcohol and anger last night finally got me to outsource the question to y'all. Like I said,