I was shocked by the fact that no one criticized the woman for setting fire to her boyfriend's bed over an argument. It's as if basically everyone
just understands that women are crazy, and they shouldn't be held accountable for it.
I think the scene starting at 46:41 in the video below sums up most people's attitude on this issue.
Michael Douglas character: You may be the only person l'm doing better than.
Man: The wife stabbed me in the stomach. With a nail file this time. She's training to be a manicurist. They make good money, you know? They always
feel bad after.
The thing that inspired this thread was a recent conversation I had with an ex-girlfriend. She insisted that the reason I broke up with her is because
I didn't love her anymore. She explained to me that the only reason someone would ever even mention breaking up with their significant other is
because they didn't love the other person anymore. When I asked her why she had tried to break up with me before I broke up with her, she admitted
that she was only testing me.
When I pushed her as to how she could have those contradictory views, she admitted that men simply are held to a different standard. I should have
understood that she could try to break up with me for any reason, but if i tried to break up with her it meant I didn't love her. She admitted that
wasn't fair, but it's just how life is.
I tried to explain to her that when she tried to break up with me I was thinking that she didn't love me anymore. You should have heard the shock in
her voice! The thought had never crossed her mind that her attempt to break up with me could have had the same impact on me as my attempt to break up
with her had on her.
She admitted that our breakup was ultimately probably her fault. I was completely in love with her. The reasons for our breakup had nothing to do with
a lack of love.
The point I'm attempting to make in this post is that both men and women seem to accept that women are crazy. I have no problem with that. I've been
married. I believe that's the rational way to approach life.
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Sweeping generalisation. Unless you're discussing physical features men/women should not be compared as absolute categories. All men and all women
are different from each other. Do not reinforce the non existent.
pure logic eventually becomes irrational in it's self of cognitive dissonance making excuses for why they do things as if it is a real person and not
just ingrained or culturally held beliefs and opinions. This leads to narrow views and stuborness.
pure ration or emotion is feeling and can become illogical in the way the emotions manifest; this is due to things being tied together in a
sentimental way and that does not necessarily mean positive sentiment. A flower can make someone happy or break down and cry.
Both of these two extremes are both irrational or unreasonable... but it is due to poor coping mechanisms in dealing with interpersonal
Reason is reasonible someone that can put a full stop to their internal/external programming bias; and see another side to life than the one from a
first person perspective...
For example; someone may not see an issue with leaving their shoes by the door. Of course tripping over them coming in with gorceries or having an
extra thing to move when cleaning up? That convienantly habitual spot to ditch them is not as convieniant as it seems.
Then of course someone could say whos cares? Well, then that means to the other; you don't and why not? Because their view-point was not taken into
So number one; before rationalizing from one's internal opinion or view bite the tongue and look at as many perspectives or reasoning physically,
psychologically and socially at the situation.
Many people that run from one point of view or perspective often jump to conclusions; but to not jump to conclusions? May test, if inquiry rarely
brings up anything but excuses without any clear reason why such a thing must be this way and cannot be another way... it is just habitual programming
afterall and not a true self or being.
If someone takes that as their true self or being then they are stuck in their ways and cannot see any side except their own; meaning ture intimacy or
love is an unlikihood; meaning someone is likely going to be left feeling unfulfilled in a relationship with a partner.
No big deal; listen to what people say externally as if you were saying it to someone; then think of why you would be saying whatever it is to them,
instead of an instant response or silence as if you are going to consider it later but likely won't as it is a just a duck and cover til things cool
down as a reflex...
That sort of thing of course builds up and builds up into inresolved issues, and then the mind games start and passive aggressiveness and all sorts of
dysfunction instead of simply communicating openly and honestly with a great deal of listening first.
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