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Originally posted by instar
I agree Ladyv, firm, loving and consistant disciplin are needed.
Originally posted by factfinder38
I have been discussing a shock collar with my daughter who is 15 and I think if I am reading the laws right I can do it as long as I do not leave marks. Any advise on this would be great if you have used these devises.
Originally posted by Amuk
One thing yall might want to remember.
I have a 16 year old who at 14 was 6 inches taller and 50 pounds heavier than me. I could still kick his butt, BUT the gut might have HAD to use it to diffuse the situation.
Originally posted by spliff4020
When she/I say "stop it!" and he replys, "what? Im just..." NO !! SLAP !!! right then and there. I didnt ask what you were doing. I told you to cease and desist. But noooooo, thats cruel, says mommie.
Originally posted by Duzey
Originally posted by spliff4020
When she/I say "stop it!" and he replys, "what? Im just..." NO !! SLAP !!! right then and there. I didnt ask what you were doing. I told you to cease and desist. But noooooo, thats cruel, says mommie.
I do agree with many of the points you have made here. Having said that I would like to give you a personal piece of wisdom.
If your wife does not want you hitting her children, you have no right to. And if you persist in using physical punishment on her children when she doesn't agree, you may find yourself on the receiving end of a nasty divorce.
Don't get me wrong, I got more than my fair of smacks as a kid, and I probably deserved them. But if my step-father had ever so much as laid a hand on me, my mother would have kicked him out on his behind, first time, no exceptions. I was her child and if anyone was going to smack me, it was going to be her.
Look kid. you're getting too old for this. But you're also becoming a man. You are responsible for your actions. If you are gonna live in my house with me an mom, you're going to have to show some respect. You are old enough that I'm not asking too much. If you think I'm a monster or something, I guess your choices are either living with us, living with the state, or living on the street. Right now, I'll tell you that the last two choices pretty much guarantee that you be poor all your life, unemployable and probably the victim of all kinds of violence.
Now, I can't "Make" you do anything. I don't control your brain. But I do legally control my property. If you can behave, then you can come home. If you ever pull this crap again, I promise before God that I'll swear out a restraining order against you. I love you, I always will. But I am not about to let you destroy my life, the rest of our family, or my hard-earned property. I'll give you a moment alone, to make up your mind. . . .
Originally posted by spliff4020
I dont hit hers. That was a reference to my own.
Originally posted by ben91069
I have a step son who behaves the same way. He is untrainable. He will not listen to anything other than what he believes sounds good to him. The only way to teach him is through long suffering, and unfortunately no one with any sense can take any action - less they go to jail. The sad part is, he will cross paths with someone with nothing to lose and perhaps be on the end of a gun or a knife because of his foolish ways.
Originally posted by Pisky
The only thing to do is walk away.
Originally posted by Amuk
I dont play that in my own home. THEY can walk away..... or be carried away.
Three of my four are grown, two live out on their own and I treat their home with the same respect I demanded they treat mine
Originally posted by Uncle Joe
Only mistake the guy made was not using a real gun. That would have got his attention.
People who bring their kids up properly dont need to shoot them because they know right from wrong! I havent been hit, shot, beaten with sticks by my parents but i know what is right and have respect for them.
For a father to have to shoot his son shows that someone had screwed up somewhere along the line.
Originally posted by instar Once grandparents were considered a valuble source of family wisdom, but now young parents shun the grands except if they want a sitter, they think they can "handle it" better than their parents did.
nuclear familys and single parent familys are missing out on so much. [edit on 083131p://36018 by instar]
Fear breeds respect. Kids need to be taught to fear the consequences, which, I feel they dont anymore.
Originally posted by spliff4020
Fear breeds respect. Kids need to be taught to fear the consequences, which, I feel they dont anymore..