a reply to: TinySickTears
You've got to interrupt the cycle. You can't stop yourself from being anxious, but you can change your reaction to that feeling, and the very best way
is to make an action plan.
The next time this starts happening, try not only interrupting yourself, but using the opportunity to help you counsel yourself. For instance, you
knew you'd find yourself sitting there freaking out until it was time to go.
Next time, have a notebook and a pen available. And when the anxiety starts, go get that notebook. Sit down with it and write down every single thing
that you think could possibly go wrong. And I mean every single thing
. You don't want to talk yourself down. You want to embrace your feelings,
because trying to stop them from occurring in the first place only exacerbates the anxiety. You need to let that sh!t out my friend, in all its
destructive glory, on that paper.
After you've done that comes the hard part. You want to write another list. Only this one is where you talk yourself down. For each negative item on
your list, try to counter it with a positive. It won't be easy at first, so that's why I say TRY. If you are only able to counter one of those things,
that's perfectly OK. That's progress.
An example would be when you are stressing about someone else being hired instead of you. That's a negative. Well, your positive could be simply that
they already gave you the job, therefore there is no longer a job opening for anyone else. Simple, logical and truthful.
If you do this every time you start feeling anxious, without fail, you will find that it is harder and harder for you to come up with negatives. You
want to keep your lists separate because when you have completed your task each time, you need to do something very important.
You need to destroy the negative list. You need to take it out outside of your home and burn it. Say, out loud, "I release these things to the
Universe. They no longer serve me." Then, burn it and scatter the ashes in front of you. Then...this is extremely important...you need to turn your
back to those ashes, walk away from them and do not look back. Literally, do not look behind you.
Keep the positive lists. They are a testament to your strength and positive intent.
Because I am an honest Witch, I have to tell you that the above is technically Witchcraft, so if you've got any stigma about that, you might want to
look at other options. However, if Magick does not scare you, this is a very powerful and positive way to cleanse your spirit and finally break free
of the anxiety that is holding you prisoner. And if you trust me, send me a u2u with your full name and date of birth and I will be happy to set a
light for you to empower your intent with my energy. If you don't trust me enough, I completely understand.
You've got this.