a reply to: djbj597922
Perhaps it isn't settling, necessarily. Perhaps there are just many types and stages of love.
That old couple sitting in their easy chairs watching the evening news may lack the physical ability or initiative for the sexual gymnastics of youth
but, do they love each other less? Or just differently now?
Does the young couple who can't eat or sleep for thinking of their desired, who can't seem to keep their hands off of one another due to the
electricity running between them...are they more in love than the couple above?
I think now that love can ebb and flow and if one survives the ebb, then perhaps when the tide returns it is replaced with a different sort of
fondness or endearment that pheromones and hormones and other types of olfactory instances can't parallel because they are different.
I don't know that the intense and mind altering 'spark' one feels, at rare times or in youth, is something that can be replicated as sometimes the
stars align and people are so physically and mentally in tune at that moment, however briefly, that it can fizzle out just as quickly as it began.
Does that mean the love was stronger? More passionate? Or simply that it burned faster for a shorter amount of time? Like a raging forest fire
compared to our sun.
Perhaps it was never meant to be forever or it wouldn't have gone away in the first place. I think that we can, sometimes, romanticize our pasts and
past lovers. I wonder, if we were given the opportunity to recreate the course of our lives, if those moments in time, that were so full of heightened
passion and emotions, could have truly sustained our hearts over the years and endured the trials and adversities we all will face in a lifetime or is
that type of love a selfish master who could not possibly share it's role with anyone else for years and years of our lives.
Perhaps that sort of love (if based only on those mind altering moments and intense passions that we may equate with true love) is a weak partner and
lacks the strength and endurance to be steadfast and committed for more than those brief moments. Perhaps those types of love are only meant to be
experienced for a short time as they serve their purpose while existing to shape and form our thoughts and desires about the different types of love
we may experience. Perhaps we are not meant to dwell on those times but, rather take away what we've learned through experience and use that to guide
us in our future.
Don't dwell on the fact that you may never find that type of love again, you may not. That isn't always a bad thing. Perhaps the love you do someday
find will have components of all types of love and endure the test of time (years). I think for folks who find that forever, passionate and enduring
type of love have learned to differentiate the stages and evolution of their love and find the rewards of their devotion worth any brief moments of
nostalgia they may feel.
Sometimes people may have never been brought together to be wholly in each others lives forever, they were merely brought together at that moment in
time that was needed. Perhaps the universe knows best?
Perhaps we should just breathe and listen to what is being told to our soul.
Good luck to you in your quest for love!
And, perhaps I'm full of it! I don't know if that 'forever' love exists but, I do hope you find it if you are needing it.