a reply to: TrueBrit
Ok, grab a few beers from the fridge, I will tell what I can...
I'm on the outs for this (calling out this person) even tho I have made no public statement. Its probably due to things I have said "in confidence" to
folk that have "added up" in peoples minds and then the gossip wagon has run with it. Its ok, I can leave them to their devices.
I have been coping # for being insensitive to the needs of someone who is nothing but NEEDS. I'm a bad person in their book. I should "get off my high
horse" and "help"... ok, like the help anyone gave me?. They dont like having it flipped around and now I'm a selfish person--I'm not the one asking
for a frikken television!.
But no, this person needs to be treated with kid gloves. Oh, its ok they lied, have you been in that situation? YES. But I mean like with nowhere else
to go? YES. But you could rely on your parents? NO.
I point out that the person in question is in contact with both their parents (who are both perplexed that suddenly their adult child is now "trans")
when I have one parent who is an alco that I have to support. My other "parent" TERFed me out over a decade ago when I first came out. I lived on the
streets, but because I have a good job now, and good education--I'm a "rich bitch". I am so not, I support my elderly alco father, and $ cost is not
just the issue--having to work and live while managing others 24/7; is not fun.
Since that last post I spent an hour or so talking to a friend (transman) about this, he is in agreement with me. He saw the gaslighting some were
doing to me and having known me for longer, felt he needed to show some support. I'm glad he spoke with me, it means this is not all paranoia (or
It still doesnt make for a happy situation, but at least its off my chest slightly.
I expect backlash tomorrow. (ie: let them run with it, I am no longer vested in their community, I care as much for the community as they do for me:
farkall). As mentioned, let them march for themselves...
[sings Joan Baez version of God on Their Side]
They lost more than they realise. I'm not helping people who do this gossip/gaslight #, even tho the only direct statement against this person was
regarding them pouring boiling water on themselves for attention (which you should be able to call someone out for that, its not like he severed a