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originally posted by: WeAreAWAKE
originally posted by: bally001
G'day, sad day for me. Simply put, my youngest lady out of 7 children has decided to live within a house where drugs, meth, acid, coke and smoke are dealt from.
She is only 16. I have sincerely asked her siblings to contact her and come to her senses before she is entirely lost. But reality tends to lend itself to my senses that she is gone. Sadly it is like a death to me and her mother and siblings. No contact and of course authorities say that she is over 16 and has the right to choose her life.
As a father I feel I have failed. My spouse (mother) feels the same. Dammit@!!! I hate this feeling. So I have quickly,,,penciled a verse to get it off my chest and post it here to my ATS family.
"Hi! 16 and my life is wasted.
Only 16 years and the drugs have won.
What I was given and tasted,
means my happy life is gone.
I hate my mum
and despise my dad,
My sisters are worthless pieces of crap
and my brothers are simply maple sap.
See you, you, you stupid stupid parents,
No more useless tyrants.
I went my own ways, always, you are to blame you pricks.
Call me priceless, instead of princess.
You, you useless grownup,
Fancy telling me what to do,
want to throw up.
You effn "Cs"
It's your fault I'm dying,
Soon I'll be flying.
hate you lot,
now I've lost my young life.
Wear these colors with pride,
It'll be all you got.
rather sad presently,
bally and partner.
Feel free to ignore me if you wish, and this is going to sound a bit rude to begin with...but...what kind of Father are you to give up on your Daughter that easily? Simply put...how dare you!
I have two Daughters in their late teens, one of which spent a year in a "bad place" and I had to deal with pretty much the same thing you are describing. But no matter what she decides, no matter what she is doing...she is your Daughter! You are not ALLOWED to give up on her. I don't care if she is selling her body, telling you she wants you dead or is cursing God...YOU are her Father and YOU MUST be there for her always and forever.
Because...there will come a day where she needs you and if you aren't there, then you will be the cause of her demise. You Fathered her...now Father her. THAT is your responsibility and it doesn't matter how hard it may be...you must be there for her. If her actions are hurting your family...fine. Distance your family from her but don't you dare...ever, write her off.
Look, she may go to her grave without asking you for anything...she may spend every waking moment hating you...she may spend every day causing you pain. But allowing her to throw herself away, deciding you won't be there for her...someday...is worse than killing her. I know your pain...I'VE BEEN THERE. I know how it eats away at your soul. TOUGH CRAP! It is your job, your Daughter and only YOU can be there for her at that one moment...maybe that one second when she decides that her choices may be wrong and reaches out....unless there is no one to reach out to. THAT is why you must be there...for that one second of contemplation tomorrow, or years from now.
Your Daughter is falling...be there to catch her by being there, forever.
originally posted by: TNMockingbird
a reply to: bally001
When we open ourselves up so much in a public arena sometimes others are unable to fully consider what we are trying to convey, much like what I am typing now. Our thoughts and innermost feelings can be translated but, only as much as the receiver can comprehend from their own life experiences (my opinion only) and couple that with personalities and delivery methods and well, I'm hoping you understand what I'm getting at.
Occasionally responses may seem harsh and that may not be what we are needing at that moment.
People come about things in their own time, you and your daughter included and it sounds as if you are doing all that you can and so is she.
Stay the course.
Without getting all spiritual on you...folks thought I was lost for some years. I think I just took a different path for awhile. I certainly didn't think I was unretrievable and couldn't fathom sometimes what everyone else's problem was. Looking back now I believe it was to make me a stronger woman, for all of the trials that I would face later, to be a better mom to the daughters I had yet to have but were destined to be born. There's some saying about folks we meet and experiences we have being lessons. I sort of believe that. This may be her lesson, and yours...
I may be wrong and although the words may have been harsh from the poster above, I took it as an attempt to bring you strength. It just may not reflect your situation properly or be what you were/are needing at the moment.
Perhaps a different way to look at it.
Either way, I'm still thinking positive thoughts for you and your family. I'm glad that you continue to check in, for what that's worth and I am still hoping for a good outcome. Stay aware that it could take much time and there will be rocky roads. It will be worth it in the end for both of you. No matter the outcome, live with no regrets.
We will support her but I can't at this juncture support drugs Sorry, but that is the line in the sand. I have planned lately to annul this but I apologise if I pussy about. I need to do it with the best intentions and legally.