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originally posted by: grainofsand
a reply to: TrueBrit
I know we disagree about much, and there is certainly no love lost between us, but I do genuinely feel for you if you are lonely.
The stuff you post on ATS makes me think you are in a niche market relationship wise though.
You frown upon people who have sex outside of a deeply committed relationship, you state you want only 'atom level' yearning love, you have Victorian ideas of being a gentleman such as laying your cape over a puddle so your lady may protect her shoes or whatever, all of which is alien to most people these days.
You've disagreed with me in loads of threads over the years regarding recreational sex, how you are so pious and pure of spirit, blah, I know you know exactly what I mean.
Well guess what, if that's how you talk in real life it wouldn't surprise me if that puts the average woman off you.
You say you have female friends, are they single? Why are you not out having a pint with them, some decent food somewhere then cozy up on the sofa with a bottle of wine at the end of the night?
The way you talk about sex on the forums I'd run for the hills if I was a girl wanting a fun friendly night out. The impression you give is desperation for some powerful 'atom level' love connection at the expense of some fun getting to know someone first.
I say lighten up and stop thinking people are whores if they enjoy friendly no strings sex, because if your female friends know that is how you feel I'm not surprised they back off..I would.
If your standards of sexual decorum and perception of 'manners' are such that you deny yourself any fun prior to developing that love then I don't know what to suggest.
Maybe join a local evangelical Christian church and you might find someone who wants the same?
Either way I'd suggest lightening up and be less full on with your moral righteousness because that will scare the average girl away.
I hope you find happiness but you have to ask yourself if it's been so long now maybe there are changes you may need to make yourself, like being less uptight and full of yourself?
Best of luck sincerely, but women and the world will not change back to the historical era of chivalry you appear to be living in your mind.
originally posted by: TrueBrit
I only enter into ridiculous monologue upon invitation in the physical world. I find conversation much more satisfying when two people are having it.