Greetings fellow members!
As ever, despite the deepest complexities of existence being ever present in my life, and having a decent grasp thereof, I am confounded by the most
mundane and seemingly simple things, and am in need, not necessarily advice, but of opinion. I shall lay out the conundrum as follows.
A lady, who has been my friend for many moons, has rather captured my interest. Because her circumstances with regard to her feelings for her ex are
unresolved, and because basically it would never work between us for reasons best just accepted by yourselves than explored over much, I decided not
to mention anything to her about how I feel, because it would needlessly complicate an already vexing situation, and because nothing much would come
of it anyway, save someone or someones getting their feelings hurt.
And so, I have spoken not a word of it to her since I discovered my interest in her. We have spoken of many things, but not of that, all very
platonic and entirely above board, of course.
But I recently found out from a friend, that the lady to whom I am referring, and one of her friends, had been in discussion specifically related to
my feelings for her, without my ever having uttered a word of it to either one of them. Now, it IS perfectly possible that despite my unassuming and
entirely gentlemanly conduct, some unconscious signal was released, and picked up on by the friend of the lady in question, or by the lady in question
But the real kicker is, what the hell do I do now? The things that made it unwise to press the issue, namely the impossibility of it all having any
outcome other than one resembling a bus crash at a petrol forecourt, have not changed, but now you see... well its like this.
Before, I did not know that she knew. But now I know that she knows, would it be weird if I did not let her know, that I know, that she knows? Or is
it better to just assume that she knows that I know, that she knows how I feel, and say nothing more about it? What is more, does any of that even
make any bloody sense at all, because I am at the end of my tether entirely?
edit on 24-11-2016 by TrueBrit because: punctuation correction.