I won't say I feel bad for you but I do sympathize with you and your....situation. We spend so
much time throughout our lives trying to please
and give as much as we can to the ones we love that we tend to forget about the most important person in our lives: ourselves.
It's hard to put ourselves first, especially when it comes to our children, but your daughter is her own separate being from you. At some point, you
and her both need realize that you don't HAVE to agree on anything. You don't HAVE to get along at all, honestly. Seems to me that you are fighting
with her because, well, she's yours and you can't give that up. But she's fighting with you because sometimes, just sometimes, kids grow up to be
stubborn, disrespectful, SELFISH jerks that only want to see things their way. When that happens, after you've tried about as much you can just to
keep that line of blood that connects you to her from snapping, the only thing left to do is cut it loose yourself. Turn your back on them and show
them nothing else but your silence. Doing this will force them to take a good long hard look and listen at themselves.
When our children grow up and begin making their own decisions we can only do so much for them anymore. It's OK to be there for them if need be, but
you CAN NOT let her personal issues that make her so angry become YOUR personal issues. You can not let her tear you down to where you see death as
The only time that's acceptable is when you have no other choice. When you embrace death because it's the only other form of life that you have to
But, considering how you have just beaten CANCER, that even though you may be old, creaky and not as limber as you once were in your twenties, which
is common by the way
, I have no doubt in my mind that you still have many years of enjoyment and HAPPINESS to spend here. You just need to focus on
YOURSELF for once.... Think long and hard about what makes YOU happy and DO THAT.
If that means leaving the ones you've been trying to make happy behind, then so be it. They're obviously not happy either.
I hope I'm not just rambling. That maybe my words have hit a chord within you. I'm only giving out what I learned myself in dealing with my father.
Don't want to go into THAT but basically, I had to turn my back on him completely and without hesitation or showing signs of remorse. For my own sake
I couldn't have him in my life AT ALL. It took time on his part but he eventually admitted his faults and promised change but some people just can't
Hopefully you will have a better outcome when it comes to you and your daughter or you and your wife. But even if you don't, I can promise you that
letting go of the negative influences in your life bring so much more JOY and personal enlightenment than holding on to what you know to be
I apologize again for going on and on and on and on lol I just hope you can see that your life is worth so much more than the easy option you see laid
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