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originally posted by: Assassin82
originally posted by: Mandroid7
The email was part of a "homework assignment" he gave her. It included a link to a pornsite with a video of a Boss/Secretary scenario. It was personal. It was done with intent. I consider it cheating.
Can you clarify this process a bit?
-you saw an email that stated the homework assignment is this, she complied and returned a link
-or you saw an email she sent with link and she stated it was an assignment?
The email I saw, was only from her. I also have his reply to her. I made sure to send myself copies.
It was titled "homework". She said the IM he sent her that it was a homework assignment. I have no information beyond that. I told her that if she's going to file a formal complaint and she's honest about it being harassment then she needs the IT folks to get the transcripts of those IM's
originally posted by: JinMI
a reply to: Tardacus
So flirting equals sex? Man, I've missed out on so many opportunities!~~!
In seriousness, since we don't know the OP's finace, we have no clue where she draws the line.
originally posted by: sapien82
as males of our species , we have alot of brain chemistry which relates back to our primal ancestors and how we have taken this from our animal heritage!
our ego's in males specifically arises the ego's desire to dominate females look at male dominated groups of animals in nature, apes , wolves etc
this is prevalent in our brain chemistry through the ego !
Im not saying that males are dominant over females here , Im talking about ego and its primal affects on males.
It drives us to be dominant.
originally posted by: evc1shop
So, she sent him material that is inappropriate in order to keep things cool and not lose a job etc..
She can probably now be terminated at will if this transmission of pornographic material is brought to light by this boss. Seems like she just gave him blackmail ammo to help him further his quest to make his fantasy come true.
originally posted by: Op3nM1nd3d
a reply to: sapien82
jealousy levels and anger would be through the roof sometimes women have to just not say anything as it would drive us mad they keep quiet about all the creeps to spare our feelings , and also probably because they brush it off as creeps! All men are challenged and teased by our ego over women , the objectification and dominance of women
Um, ok she can be quiet and not say anything if she feels this would make him mad. But could also say that someone flirted with her but she rejected him because she loves her partner very much. Much more elegant solution
However, telling him about it and then adding that she had 'no choice but to play in his fantasy' is something completely different. It`s teasing, concious or unconcious, and it`s a problem. You always have a choice to make, always.
Though, I agree with the rest you said. Partners should be equals, should make decisions together for the most part. No dominance, no secrets...no jealousy. Having a personal space always help but you can only make it work if you have trust in one another. It is an important step in every relationship.
Also one other thing , if you feel like it , take some psychedelics together , or some mdma. great for couples allowing ego to be reduced and let the emotions unite
While this is true, it is a dangerous road. Why? Because in case of future tensions you may both want to feel the love again and you`ll know how to find it. Should be done naturally if possible. It`s a tough road but definitely worthwhile.
a reply to: Assassin82
Also important to look at yourself first and see if you can better yourself also. Those angry looks at people when looking at your girlfriend don`t help either. You may be giving her too much of authority (thus hierarchic) atmosphere in the first place. Remember that you don`t own her, the relationship is mutual. So every thing you say to her that she must or must no do due to whatever reason, it works like a repellent. All I`m saying is don`t give her orders, talk to her instead, unless of course she wants a man of authority to nail her hard...lol
And I agree, I always try to look inward at myself to see if changes need to be made within. I'm already in the process.
And I agree, I always try to look inward at myself to see if changes need to be made within. I'm already in the process.
originally posted by: Jdennis10
a reply to: Assassin82
And I agree, I always try to look inward at myself to see if changes need to be made within. I'm already in the process.
Change is always good for the inner self. Change is hard for some because they don't want to change or they don't want change.
The self within has to let change flow.
You are a decent human.
originally posted by: eletheia
originally posted by: evc1shop
So, she sent him material that is inappropriate in order to keep things cool and not lose a job etc..
She can probably now be terminated at will if this transmission of pornographic material is brought to light by this boss. Seems like she just gave him blackmail ammo to help him further his quest to make his fantasy come true.
You have obviously only skimmed through the thread ... her boss gave her a
*homework assignment* to find and send him an e.mail with a link (which it was
not clearly specified what the subject of the link was to be) .... it turned out
to be a porn site.
originally posted by: AlongCamePaul
Your fed GF and her boss are probably reading this right now.