a reply to: Atsbhct
Here's the thing.
When one needs to get things done, ones people are supposed to help. For example, my best friend and her boyfriend moved into their house last year.
I was ill with a cold on the day, which did not prevent me from turning up when I said I would, and powering through my stuffed nose, blocked ears,
and hyper inflated eyelids, to be an effective member of the moving team. Many of our other friends were there on the day as well, and each and every
single one had something to contribute to the moving effort. Not a single, solitary soul was stationary for more than a few minutes at a time, until
all the furniture and other sundry items were in the house, the vans empty, and the way clear so that even in the chaos of rooms not yet organised,
there was a way to move around in those rooms without accident or damage to person or property.
When works require to be done on a property, it is also possible to have all hands on deck, every person working toward the eventual goal, and to
have no one simply occupying space and getting nothing done.
Simply put, when you are in need of work doing, your friends have a simple choice. Muck in, or ship out. No one should be sat on a couch, watching a
soccer match and getting in the way, no one should be finding a quiet place to hide inside their telephone for several hours at a time. The only
people in the building should have tools in their hands and be applied to tasks which advance the entire project some, and there are two reasons for
First of all, its damned lazy minded to sit there on ones rear, doing nothing, and contributing nothing to a busy environment. Work is completed
faster, the more people are involved in the doing of it.
Secondly, friends are those who put effort in. You give and take, you share resources of time, energy, mind and spirit with these people. The least
they can damned well do, is either take up some of the work on your behalf, or bugger off out of the way for a few days so that your house can be put
in order, in preparation of the arrival of your little one. If they care about you, then they must show that they care for the child you are about to
have as well, by putting their shoulders to the grindstone, or at least giving the necessary space to others to turn it for you.
You should not feel remotely bad about insisting on some basic rules for these things, amongst your friends.