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originally posted by: SlapMonkey
I really think that you're overly worried about the affect of your break-up on this ex-gf of yours. There can be myriad things that happen in someone's life that can put them in a relative funk, and you may not understand something that she may be going through at this time. Remember, according to you, she tried to break up with you before, so there was obviously some sort of indication on her behalf that showed that the relationship wasn't meant to be.
originally posted by: Bluesma
Online relationships, like the one you took your email break up from, don't count as real relationships to me.
I guess I am old. I've just seen that my online relationships tend to have an element of narcissism because of the lack of physical exchange.
I mean, when you are talking with someone, there is another exchange happening at the same time-
through body language, tone of voice, smells, your subconscious's are exchanging and commenting; emphasizing or de-emphasizing, confirming or invalidating, the words coming out of your mouth.
Like your conscious awareness/ego is the husband having this bragging, bluffing, exchange with the other husband... while the wives are having a quiet and sincere exchange based more on empathy than hierarchy, power, conquest.
They tell each other- "he's exaggerating on that", "he's lying, that isn't what happened", "what he isn't saying is the really kind act he did in that event"...or "he didn't mention how much he loves that kid he is complaining about..."