a reply to: Bluesma
Try a more objective approach to the events of your day. Get a notebook and a black pen, and make a list of everything that nasty little voice is
criticizing you for. Let it all out, no matter how irrational or ridiculous it may sound. Write down why that inner critic found fault with them, too.
Use black ink because it represents negativity, which I'll get to in a minute.
Then, make another list of all the things you did
do or say instead, and why they were right or how they were beneficial to either yourself or
others. Make this list yellow, orange, green or blue (fresh start and bright beginnings, dynamic change and abundance, prosperity and fulfillment, and
healing, respectively)...or even a combination of those as the situation warrants. Again, write down everything positive, no matter how insignificant
or how much it sounds like you're tooting your own horn. This is the hardest part of the entire process.
At first, you may find your list of "cons" to be more substantial than the list of "pros", and that's OK. It is always far easier to find the negative
aspect of something, and human beings often cannot see the light until they have first faced the darkness that shrouds it. Let that voice pour out of
your pen, don't suppress it. Get all that malicious, undermining darkness out into the open.
If you do this consistently, make it a new routine, you will start to see the imbalance shift. The more positive things that you look for, the more
you'll find, and eventually they will give the deepest part of you the confidence to start ignoring that horrid little voice. Ultimately, that
confidence will not only silence your inner harpy, but will also draw more opportunity and positivity into every aspect of your life, making it
increasingly difficult for that little voice to find anything negative to offer.
It is inevitable that at some point, the miserable critic will make an encore appearance. That's OK too...because by teaching yourself to look at
things in a truly objective light, you will have a balanced perspective rather than simply getting sucked into a negative spiral of doubting your own
personal power and ability to make the right choices in life.
Use the same notebook, and only use it for that purpose. You may need several notebooks...a lot of people do. Once you feel certain that you have
sufficiently disempowered the hateful voice and regained control of your perspective, take every one of the lists written in black out of the
notebook(s) and burn the pages somewhere outside of your dwelling.
Before you set the pages alight, imagine every cruel, nasty, negative bit of criticism contained within them. All of it, in one big writhing ball of
black ink. When you're ready, light the pages and visualize the ink being consumed by the flames and the darkness captured within it being released
into the smoke. Burn every scrap until there's nothing left but ashes, visualizing the entire time...even if it requires you to continue relighting
the paper. And when it is done, turn your back on the ashes and walk away...and no matter how tempting it is, do not look back.
Leave the ashes
to scatter away on the wind. They will no longer serve you, and they need to be forgotten...to look back is to leave an opening for their return.
Keep the positive pages, as a reminder of everything that you do right
in your life, on a daily basis. And when you're having a bad day, take
them out and look through your new collection of positivity. Give yourself more credit for the awesome things you do, and it will be harder and harder
for negativity to find a foothold within your spirit.
Brightest Blessings to you along your path, and Blessed Be. I wish you every success on this journey, and godspeed.