I'm just gonna air the water...
I really don't care... I just need some advice from anyone who will listen to my story.
I just CAN'T BELIEVE what happened. This is what actually happened. So please take a moment if you can read it, and then if you can give any sound
advice I'd greatly appreciate it...
Okay I was doing pretty well in life this was 5 years ago. My only challenge at the time was I had some serious problems. The tax man was after me.
Also I had a major major law suit pending. So I was really stressed. And I had never been through such a chaotic time NOT EVER! So I literally didn't
know from one day to the next how to handle all this chaos.
So then to make matters worse I did what at the time seemed like a "kind justure". I had this property, I was living off the rental income. But my
parents kept bugging me to sell it to them. Because they knew I had been trying to sell it prior. So here's what I did...
I decided that to sort of give myself some breathing room to take care of my other issues I'd do a deal with my parents. I'd sell them the building
at a good price, however, I told them that what we'd do is "split the net income" from the building. That way we'd both benefit. I'd still have
an income. And they too would have some extra income and manage it.
So at the time it seemed like a reasonably good idea. So I sold it to them. Then shortly after I went to them and was like "so by the way where's my
portion of the net income???" And they basically slowly and very cunningly told me a bunch of lies as to why the building wasn't performing as good
as they thought. And how they didn't have any extra income, and that they just barely were able to pay the utilities and mortgage etc etc.
So I told them.... Okay I'll tell you what, I'll give you a few months to figure things out and try get on top of the situation. Meanwhile my legal
problems where only getting worse. And only getting more and more stressful. so I had like next to no time to deal with this building delema. I sort
of figured that they'd eventually come around and we'd get things back on some normal track.
So my legal problems went on for a few more years. Then they came to an end. So then now they've essentially have sort of come to tell me in no
uncertain terms that they're not planning on paying me anything. And my challenge is we only had this as a verbal agreement. Because I was my own
parents so I didn't think that I'd ever need anything in writing with them. I mean I didn't think in a million years they'd actually come back and
screw me for doing them such a kind justure. Like it's ABSOLUTELY NUTS.
The only thing they did do is allow me to move into their home basically rent free. So I got a free bedroom out of it all. But what just boggles my
mind is that like here I am, I'm not a kid anymore. I'm over 40, but yet I'm essencially trapped for the time being in my parents home. Almost like
some kind of financial prisoner or something. Like I don't want to take the chance of moving right now and eating up what tiny savings I have left.
Not until at least I can get back on my feet again.
What's also very bizzare is that my mother who's actually my step mother, she went ahead and got her daughter working with them on the building. So
she's earning an income from it, doing some management duties. Meanwhile I'm totally out in the cold. So now all my legal issues are over with and
I'm sort of looking at the situation like "what an awful mistake". Like I mean I never in a million years thought this kind of thing could happen.
Mind you it's like a very very expensive learning experience. But meanwhile I've thought at times about getting a lawyer and try to force them into
at least meeting some of their obligations. But again my challenge is I really can't afford to do that.
I mean so I just don't know what to do. I mean to overly press the issue could cause my strain on our relationship. And if I did anything drastic
they'd most likely kick my out of the house. And any drastic steps might not amount to anything since I don't have anything in writing. So I've
been sort of chaulking the situation up as I'm getting paid back a tiny bit each month by them covering my rent so to speak.
But really it's such a backstab and from my own family. Like it's totally disgusting and heartbreaking. Because I just never thought in a million
years they'd stup to such a shameful and disgusting moral level.
So my options are somewhat limited. I looked everywhere to see if I could find some scrap of evidence of our agreement but there's none to be found.
Maybe other than like affidavits from character witnesses. So there's a few of those I could get. But nothing concrete. I mean one option might be to
try and get a mediator in to try and sit them down and talk some sense into them. Like I feel just robbed. As a result I have no income at all. I was
thinking starting a small business would be easy again, but it's not that easy. I kinda forgot how long it took me last time to actually get a
business off the ground. Took years and a lot of luck on my side. But that business is long gone. I was counting on some of that building income to
keep me solid for a while.
I just don't know what to do. I mean I guess it couldn't hurt to try talking to them again but they're not honest people. They've already told me
in no uncertain terms that me living here is more than enough. But it's not even close to the agreement we had. I just can't believe this. I just
really don't know what I should do? Like should I cut my losses? Or still try and pursue this??? I just can't believe how disgusting people can
believe, even your own family. So the only thing I'm trying to do now is scramble around trying to figure out a source of income, but so for it's
been very difficult. Like so far no options at all.
What do you make of the situation??? What would you do in this situation??? Or if you were me???