a reply to: BASSPLYR
(Hi everyone!...just passing through)
Dave, I've been thinking about this. Jess's advice was the best I've read, but I think you need a more specific plan, for a more specific reason.
Yes, this guy needs help, but you have surpassed both your ability and resources to do so. Your loyalty to this man is understandable and commendable.
It is also counterproductive. You know that, and you know that you know, but you continue to do everything you can because you feel that you are his
only hope, and therefore it is up to you. It's a circling argument with no conclusion. I'm just acknowledging what I see as a pattern.
You also know that help is not out there....not in this present world we live in.
My concern is that this guy is going to hurt you. Well, he already has. But nobody knows more than you how truly crazy and dangerous
unfortunate individual is. He truly is not responsible for his actions and the evidence of his delusions is unmistakable, plus his history of acting
on them. So, it is also clear that you are his only friend and you want to, wisely, put some distance between you, but do the math. How long will it
be before this guy realizes that you are rejecting him and how far will he go to "punish you for hurting him?"
I'm thinking that you might consider going to the local police station and seeing if you can speak with someone about him. They may not give you the
time of day, but if nothing else, you will be on record as being above board and respectable, because otherwise you might easily end up in a "guilty
by association" scenario if you get innocently snagged into his next drama.
Plus, it may very well be that the cops are looking for a chance to lock him up but keep missing the opportunity because people like yourself are
misguidedly getting in their way.
It isn't that easy to get someone committed. I know and won't drift my little sub-thread to explain. But walking into the station and beginning with
the fact that his own mother has a restraining order, plus his diagnosis and your personal concerns just might be enough to get some balls rolling.
The way I see it, it's just a matter of time before someone gets hurt and possibly killed and I don't want it to be you. (I enjoy your posts too
So far, you've been dealing with him alone. Yes, he needs help, but so do you. The cops have the power, I believe, to get him under some sort of
observation by a temporary commitment, and that should be sufficient. You might talk to the landlord who wants to evict him as he can back up your
concern with the police.
Like everyone else, I'm so sorry you are going through this.