posted on Aug, 29 2016 @ 03:05 PM
a reply to: Martin75
I'm not the best when it comes to death; having had one death in my family, that I experienced when I was 12. I phased out and I just didn't care, my
own father, it didn't haunt me until the only thing I owned that had belonged to him, a crystal fruit bowl, shattered in the kitchen a few years
I was inconsolable, to say the least. That one item that had belonged to him. Gone. He was gone. And that's when I realised I was still human, just a
very very repressed human who had been suppressing things for far too long. For that one simple action of crystal smashing, awakened me from myself,
and all the grief that I should have felt rushed in upon me and floored me.
It sounds as though Jack was very healthy-minded towards the idea of his death and that he would rather his family, you, to celebrate his life and not
mourn his death speaks volumes. He lived, he married his love, he was surrounding by loving family and friends til the end. And of course you're going
to mourn regardless of his wishes.
Remember his life and celebrate all the wonderful times you had together, but please do
cry when you feel it rising too. A whole range of
emotion awaits you, there's nought that can be done to stop it, even though he wished for you all to not grieve.
We will all be here with you, and for you, to help you through the harder days and smile with you through the better days. We are of the Shed! And we
all love you.