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originally posted by: Reverbs
a reply to: Blue_Jay33
I dated a coworker for about 3o days before she beat me up and locked me out 2 stories on a balcony with no shirt/shoes/wallet/phone..
At my place.
I climbed down called the cops at my neighbors house and I looked so bad they instantly arrested her no questions except where did she hit you.
we worked together so I told my boss she got arrested.
they held her three days but instantly we were not allowed in the same areas. So....
She got fired.
could have been me or her or both of us..
while inside she destroyed the entire house and slammed her head into walls bruising herself.
she lied in court after going after me a sheriff at my house serving me a restraining order.. I'm like wtf?
but truth won in that one, but she lost her job.
Then the criminal assault case.
I recommended to the DA anger management. I thought that would help society better than jail time. The judges and DA were women. The first responding officer was a woman. She was like before anything. "in this state we take this seriously we don't blame the guy." I was surprised how equal and fair the courts were. It was my call the DA said she would go to jail automatically.
I don't recommend work relationships haha
because of all the court dates and money loss I lost my job
Not fun, but I've had worse.
Sweet hearted warrior.
Till I die.
originally posted by: VegHead
It's a preemptive move ... It's meant to spare the guy hurt feelings or embarrassment. Let him know you aren't available romantically right off the bat.
My husband tells me I'm really good at this particular social move.
originally posted by: AmericanRealist
In the past, I simply would take it as a challenge. I would pretend I did not hear it, not even discuss it, and just keep laying on the charm. Sometimes they cheat, and sometimes they don't. Other times they just made it up i would discover.
Women get hit on ALL the time. But I suspect they would only bring it up in an introduction if the male counterpart is being too obvious with his intent.
So like many other things women say, I just assume they are lying and pretend I did not hear it. Although in my experience, this is rarely brought up in a casual introduction or meeting. Usually only when my intent became clear.
Either way, it would never bother me.
originally posted by: VegHead
It's a preemptive move ... It's meant to spare the guy hurt feelings or embarrassment. Let him know you aren't available romantically right off the bat.
My husband tells me I'm really good at this particular social move.
originally posted by: Blue_Jay33
Funny thing is that female co-workers mention it in our first meeting, but then when they see I truly have no intent they don't seem to ever mention it again. They will let me know if they broke up with a boyfriend or separated from their husbands too, they are quick to announce relationship changes to me.
Sorry as guy I just find it all strange.
very confident, outgoing, open and extremely friendly
originally posted by: Blue_Jay33
The worst I saw was I guy double the girls age hitting on her, and she was like, "dude I have a boyfriend, and you are married with kids" And he was like "so what".
What a beast, some men are mongrel dogs that give the whole gender a bad rep.
originally posted by: Blue_Jay33
a reply to: TNMockingbird
very confident, outgoing, open and extremely friendly
Yeah that's me, I guess if a woman who usually experiences that type of vibe leading to being hit on from past experience they can only assume one thing. But with me they would be wrong.