a reply to: tikbalang
I was raised to understand that mistakes happen. Everyone gets it wrong from time to time, perfection in all things and at all times is not just
impossible, but laughably so. It is not impossible in the way that flight was considered impossible, or the way that correcting the segregationalist
policies of yesteryear was considered impossible for America way back.
It is simply fundamentally impossible for a human being to be right all of the time, to behave perfectly at all times, to be in the right frame of
mind to perform perfectly at their job, or remember to do all their paperwork, or any other bloody thing. No one, on the face of this world is
perfect. Everyone has flaws.
However, armed with this knowledge, we can at least reduce the amount of time we spend fretting about not being perfect. Many have been, as you
rightly state, bought up with a certain expectation drummed into them, that they will never do drugs, never become drunk to excess, never fail a test,
never flinch from pain, never do anything to upset or dishonour their families, and so on, and so forth. This actually creates an awful lot of
internal conflict and turmoil, especially when some poor sap who has been bought up to fear failure as much as they fear death, comes up against a
situation which has no right answer, for the first time in their lives.
Without the simple information, without knowing as fact that no human being on this world is perfect in even the smallest way, a person can be
trapped in a spiral of flawed logic, failure to act at all, when even the wrong choice would have been better than none. That is the most tragic thing
My personal outlook on these matters is, that I am not here to prove anything to anyone. If my performance matches up to my expectations, then that
is something to be comfortable with. If my performance exceeds those expectations, that is something to be happy about. If my performance is sub par,
it is something I can work on to improve, and hopefully get right next time.
All I can do in the meantime is try to be responsible for myself, to take my responsibility for and to myself and those I love seriously, and the
responsibility I have as a citizen as well. Perfection is unattainable, so attempting to reach it is pointless. Accepting and working around ones
flaws, tends to be more effective at allowing a person to survive.