posted on Aug, 8 2016 @ 05:49 PM
a reply to: lazyfortress
Dear Lazyfortress - Hi! My dear, you have no friends other than those on ATS. You have such a fascinating hobby and future goal. Don't ever feel
alone. I think some on ATS are reacting to some of the things you have said and not grasping who you are. I have the impression that you are not like
other kids your age. You are ahead of other kids in terms of knowledge and the ability to grasp concepts. Is that so? Are you off the charts in
specific areas? Sometimes kids with the incredible ability to understand lessons beyond what their peers know, and kids who have specialized hobbies
and are a "fountain of knowledge" don't have any friends or isolate themselves because they are more adult thinkers. Adult thinkers and still growing
emotionally. I think some of the people on this site need to give you some breathing space.
You are quick to apologize, to want to keep your friendships and to learn. You clearly have a love for Cookie and want her to be with you and to be in
It's good to vent because all that chaos and frustration then gets out of your head and you can also get feedback from others. In this case everyone
has great advice and experience to share. Your parents love you and are taking care of you - that's what is important and it shows their love and
responsibility for you.
Have you ever considered that your dad puts down your interests because he is jealous? Or perhaps he doesn't have a clue what you are talking about?
Perhaps he grew up in a home where there was just put downs all the time - maybe he learned to be the exact way. Maybe your Mom is paranoid because
she is stressed about being a good Mom and making sure your Dad is happy (which usually means the rest of the family is happy). Regardless, they have
emotions and they may be acting inappropriately. Maybe next time someone puts you down or yells at you say something like: "That just hurt my
feelings." Or, "Do I come across as a know-it-all to you, because that's not my intention." Make them think about what just came out of their mouth
and then maybe, just maybe, it will make them stop and think. Some parents just spill thoughts out of their mouth from struggles in their lives that
their kids aren't aware of and it becomes a habit.
I love the idea of a spontaneous action: like taking out the garbage or vacuuming. My child has done that and I've just about said something smart
alecky and then realized that what she has just done is a gift to me. And a showing that she "gets it" and my heart just wants to explode with love
for her and who she is becoming, as well as utter delight.
You are a good kid. You have an incredible life goal. You can do it! When I was going through a rough time in my late teens I just kept saying to
myself, "Just two more years." And then it became, "Just one more year." And then the day was upon me. I had made it and I had learned so much about
myself: that I could endure an ugly home situation and survive and finally I was free! Life was so amazing to know I hadn't been crushed mentally and
that I now had the whole world ahead of me.
I think you are a very special young man and I am always here to talk to if need be. Hugs to you LazyFortress. And give Cookie a good belly rub from