a reply to: lazyfortress
Firstly I'd like to say I'm sorry for the way you're feeling right now. Living with anyone can be stressful, and it's only compounded by the fact
that they're your parents. But, putting that aside, I'd like to offer some advice. The first adviso here is to come back and read this after you've
had a chance to calm down and take everything in.
Now, the first thing you should understand is that you're not responsible for the behavior of anyone else. Without knowing the specifics of your
situation or your dynamic with your parents, you can't hold yourself responsible for every mood swing and every argument. Internalizing it only makes
the problem worse, will stress you out, and helps absolutely no one. I'm not familiar with what options are available to you, but I would recommend
going for a walk to defuse the situation, or at the very least just getting to a spot where you can be quiet and by yourself.
Secondly, you should consider the behavior of others from their perspective when it's possible. This isn't to say you're wrong and they're right, or
vice versa, but perhaps your father's mood changed so quickly because of something of which you're unaware. To give you some background, I rent a
room from a married couple who have children, and I've lived here now for six years. While the first year was filled with the average growing pains
of people getting used to one another, I've come to regard these people as my family and best friends, honestly. But even then, there are times where
we really piss each other off and just need to walk away. It happens in every close-quarters dynamic and there's not much you can do to help it aside
from A) be considerate of their situation and try to evaluate things with respect to their situation and B) know when it's time to walk away and pick
up the discussion at a later time.
Lastly, and perhaps most importantly, things always seem 100% more drastic when we're "in the moment", and the heat of the moment can make things seem
a lot worse than they actually are. Again, speaking from experience here. So, whatever you're considering, you need to make sure you actually think.
Think long, and think hard about your reaction and what it means. How will it affect the people around you? For better or worse (and without
knowing any of your personal history with your folks), they are your family, and you should endeavor to remember that.
I hope you find some measure of peace and tolerance within your household, I hope your stress abates, and I hope you're able to somehow be ok.