originally posted by: JinMI
Well, actually I've known for quite awhile. I finally talked to her via social media today for the first time. It was a bit awkward and I don't
really know what to say. I'm sure we have plenty to talk about but I social media hardly seems like the platform .
Has anyone else gone through this or something similar? I'd love to hear some thoughts or possible good questions to ask. Thanks all.
That is wonderful and I hope it turns out well for you!
I have been through similar. When I was quite young I found out that I had been adopted, I really should have suspected due to the age of my adoptive
parents, and in my early 20s I reached out to my birth family, finally.
My birth Mother was single at the time I was given away and as I was the youngest of three children and my brother and sister had the same father and
he actively participated in their lives and mine didn't, I suppose I drew the short straw.
We began talking on the phone, my brother lived in Sweden at the time, and just getting to know each other as you would with any new person in your
What has your life been like? What do you enjoy? Do we have things in common? Did we think about each other growing up?
General questions at first until the comfort level increased. My Mother and sister flew to Florida, separately, in short order to meet up and one
interesting thing that came out of it, for me, was that my sister and I had been permitted to play together as children however neither of us knew we
were related at that time.
They've included me in their life events and even invited me to Sweden for my niece's wedding but my life events didn't allow for me to attend in
My birth Father's children (my other 1/2 siblings) don't want anything to do with me except one. It is rare that we email. She (my sister) insists
that I remain a secret still. That hurts but knowing her truth is better for me, IMO.
All in all it has worked out well for me and two of my siblings, and I hope the same for you. Just always be honest (not that you wouldn't) about your
feelings and emotions.
When I reconnected there were so many emotions on both sides. Anger, resentment, pain, guilt, joy, comfort, a calmness that had not been felt in many
years, and love.
I truly wish you and your sister luck and hope for the best for both of you. It can either be the one of the greatest moments of your life or one of
the most painful. I've experienced both and I hope, deeply, for you and your sister the former.