originally posted by: lazyfortress
a reply to: AugustusMasonicus
I was always embarrassed at showing that I like girls near my parents. It's embarrassing. Showing who I have a crush on. That's why I keep
women/girls to myself and close friends.
I don't know if you've noticed on this site, but I can easily be quite the smartass from time to time--basically sarcasm is my first language, English
is a distant second.
My 12-year-old son has just started being interested in girls (he has Asperger's and is a bit behind that maturity curve), but he was so nervous
letting me know about his crush on a girl in the neighborhood that he made it a point to tell my wife first, and to ensure that she told me not to
make jokes about it because it would make him uncomfortable.
As hard as it was to do, I complied with his request, and it has made life for him so much easier (and for me, because he trusts me more to talk to me
about that kind of stuff openly without fear of sarcasm and jokes). But, I was in the same boat as you growing up, and I never felt comfortable
discussing that stuff with my dad. Hell, I don't think that he even knew when I started liking girls--we never really even had "the talk" at any point
during my maturity. I'm surprised I even knew how to create my two children...lucky guess, I suppose.
When I was a teenager, I spent most of my money on my '66 Mustang, and my dad helped me work on it (he used to own a '30 Model-A street rod, '65 Chevy
truck, '65 MGB, etc...he liked cars). Needless to say, he was supportive because he held the same interest--he could have easily been a parent that
sees cars only as a way to get from point A to point B and nothing more.
It seems as though your father does not hold the same interest, and therefore he doesn't understand the "why" behind you wanting to pursue such
things. I think what you should do is approach this subject in a way that shows that it could be an investment on your future. The skills that it
takes to build things (especially electronics, if you're into that) and control flying things via electronic controls is a field of employment that
will only grow in the future. Maybe approach it that way and see if that helps him come around a bit. Who knows--maybe even ask if he'll help you in
the building of some of the stuff. Even if he says "no," you sent out a proverbial olive branch that may soften his approach to controlling your
Sorry if that was too long and rambled on. I'm tired.
ETA: Also, keep the ace up your sleeve of being willing to compromise--say that you'll save 30% of your money and only spend 70% on these endeavors.
That will show that you are approaching the subject of money with an open mind about saving, and that's probably a big part of your dad's
reluctance/denial of letting you spend your money on these things (he probably sees it as a waste of money). Showing financial maturity will go a very
long way with most parents.
edit on 2-8-2016 by SlapMonkey because: (no reason given)