posted on Jul, 31 2016 @ 02:40 AM
originally posted by: Atsbhct
a reply to: Bluesma
Thanks for sharing this. It definitely gives me an idea for why Americans might not care about parental leave.
Are you more accepting of it now?
I am.... intellectually. But I find that the early conditioning we recieve in our education is extremely hard to shake.
I still get uncomfortable when I go to pick up meds at the pharmacist and she tells me I have nothing to pay.
I get physical symptoms- my gut goes into tight cramps, my head drops forward and my eyes will stay low, unable to look anyone straight in the eyes.
It is a shameful type reaction that never goes away.
In work situations, this has been my biggest hurdle - I will automatically do things alone without aid, which is not appreciated here and seen
egotistical and antagonistic. I have real difficulties asking anyone to help me.
But I can force myself now. Back when I was having babies here, I had to put up a big fight to get out of the hospital 24 hours after giving birth
(the tradition is to stay two weeks!). They thought I was insane and it made a scandal.
Now, I think I would do the two weeks, but would have to deal with all the physical stress signals of my body described above, for the whole period.
Adapting to much different practices means doing a sort of violence against your body that is a source of long term stress- which is why I have to
have time alone in nature to recupurate.
This is largely why I often say I strongly doubt that such huge changes could be made in America and work smoothly- a generation of people taught
different values simply cannot change mid-life! You are not going to suddenly make X generation people feel okay with getting some support and aid
from their society and others when they have never had it in their whole life, are proud of that, and have coped by convincing themselves they don't
want it anyway.
It would take a couple generations before you could get people who started off understanding this principle and are conditioned to it.
31-7-2016 by Bluesma because: (no reason given)