posted on Jul, 19 2016 @ 04:01 AM
Relationships are as varied as the people who engage in them, and there are a few basics everyone looks for. Beyond those basics, however, you will
find a wild and colorful world where what works for one, does not work for another.
The old adage "One size fits all" is not true. Just like the whole "Alpha male" and "Alpha female" adage, there are different types, and everyone
has their own ideas an opinions.
My friends think I'm some sort of Uber Alpha, 'cuz I have two women who absolutely love and adore me. However, I seldom raise my voice, or beat my
chest. I'm protective, but not over-bearing. I let the girls make mistakes, instead of telling them how to do things, I might make a suggestion if I
am asked. I don't enforce any sort of control, but I am there to help pick up the pieces, and dry their eyes when something goes wrong, or things
don't work out the way they hope they do. I listen when they talk, and only try and fix things when they ask. (I do a LOT of listening... )
I'm not an alpha, at least I don't think I am, but I am comfortable in my own skin, and I will stand up for what I think is right, and step in when
things are wrong to set them right, if I can. I don't get bent out of shape with those who voice their opinion of what they think of me, nor do I
bend to what other think I should be. I can listen to criticism, but it does not mean I will accept it as fact.
I don't take myself seriously all the time, and I'm quick with a joke, or something to make others laugh.
I don't compete, unless the prize is worth the competition, because not everything should be a competition. There is no point to it. Games should be
fun, not constant in a relationship, just like with drama, it has it's place, too, as do debates and disagreements. Compromise is also a lost art, it
can't always be sunshine and rainbows, and you can't always have your way.
Am I an alpha, probably not, but does a label or title, or such really matter to me? Probably not.
Just some food for thought, from someone with a perspective.