Best first date ideas...

a reply to: Abysha

What do you think of going out to the park(like Central Park) eating some baked good and drinking coffee(and talking of course) and then simply walking around(after having sat at a bench or on the grass) then to a movie, dinner or you know walking.

I feel stupid for asking

originally posted by: ksiezyc
a reply to: Abysha

What do you think of going out to the park(like Central Park) eating some baked good and drinking coffee(and talking of course) and then simply walking around(after having sat at a bench or on the grass) then to a movie, dinner or you know walking.

I feel stupid for asking

Honestly, I'd skip the movie since that's more like an activity you do with somebody you aren't actively trying to get to know.

The rest of what you said sounds like a great first date to me.

a reply to: Abysha

Ok how about a long walk on the beach. I stop and look deep into my dates eyes and we just talk about love and life. We walk some more and hold hands. Next we sit on the warm sand and enjoy each other.

After that we find a quiet dinner spot and talk for hours and drink red wine.

a reply to: Abysha
Hm, skip the movie you say. Well I'll ask if she'd like to see a movie maybe. Well first. I need to ask her out. And yeah you're right. I think a movie is fine after a couple dates.

a reply to: ksiezyc

I agree skip a movie. That can wait. Get to know her and feel her soul of her self and how she feels about life. Talk with her and see if you two click.

originally posted by: Quantum12
a reply to: Abysha

Ok how about a long walk on the beach. I stop and look deep into my dates eyes and we just talk about love and life. We walk some more and hold hands. Next we sit on the warm sand and enjoy each other.

After that we find a quiet dinner spot and talk for hours and drink red wine.

I'm sure that would fit a lot of personalities out there but it's not really my bag. For that kind of date, I need to feel the chemistry and that's rarely something I'm able to feel right away. Most chemistry I feel comes from knowing what kind of person he is from the first date, which requires physical closeness, eye contact, and "light" conversation.

Oh, and I can't overstate the importance of wit and compliments with me. I know it's cliche but the right kind of cleverness and flattery will make me forget a whole lot of rules I've set for myself ahead of time.

So the kind of date you described would likely be a second or third date for me. But, like I said, it would match a whole lot of other personalities out there.

a reply to: Quantum12

That makes sense. A movie seems sort of lazy actually.

a reply to: Abysha

Ok I see. Ok your a girl? So what words of love turn you on. Are you a first date with the love mode and I could talk about how beautiful you look and how your hair is amazing!

originally posted by: ksiezyc
a reply to: Abysha

What do you think of going out to the park(like Central Park) eating some baked good and drinking coffee(and talking of course) and then simply walking around(after having sat at a bench or on the grass) then to a movie, dinner or you know walking.

I feel stupid for asking

Sounds perfect to me!

originally posted by: ksiezyc
a reply to: Abysha
Well first. I need to ask her out.

If you haven't asked her out already, all the better. While you are learning more about her in a platonic context, find out what she might enjoy doing so when you do ask her out, she'll realize how thoughtful you are by remembering those details.

a reply to: Night Star

Night Star please tell us about your first date with your rock star husband

a reply to: Night Star
Are roses appropriate for a first date? Or well one rose anyways.

a reply to: Abysha
My situation is tough? May be tough? I don't actually have contact with her...I'm friends with her brother. I did talk a little with her.

a reply to: ksiezyc

I have found that giving a rose on the first date is great! The problem is if you two fall in love and stop the roses in the future we have a problem. That happened to me. After two years she said where are my roses. Lol we are not together anymore after 10 years. I am looking for my new first date too. Lol

originally posted by: Quantum12
a reply to: Abysha

Ok I see. Ok your a girl? So what words of love turn you on. Are you a first date with the love mode and I could talk about how beautiful you look and how your hair is amazing!

Hah! I am actually pretty "old fashioned" considering everything else that defines me. But most of that serious stuff kind of falls on my deaf ears if it's brought into the mix before any sort of chemistry is established. Obviously, that does happen but it's rare and never something I plan for.

Seriously, first date conversation with me is more like witty banter, with little jabs of sexy-time thrown in. If it is too explicit early on, it loses its purpose for me.

And everybody likes flattery, as long as it matches the mood. Some people like me are 100% fueled by flattery so it might just be your best bet, hah!

a reply to: Abysha

Your a cool person. I think taking you on a first date would be awesome! Your a real person and that says a lot. I would invite you over to my house have you help me cook dinner!

a reply to: Quantum12

LOL I just like giving flowers whenever for no reason. I like seeing the smile. LOL Double date

a reply to: ksiezyc

I know your first date with her will be amazing. Your a good person!

originally posted by: Quantum12
a reply to: Abysha

Your a cool person. I think taking you on a first date would be awesome! Your a real person and that says a lot. I would invite you over to my house have you help me cook dinner!

Awwww... you have no idea. I gots me lots of baggage, hah!

Seriously, though... I'm a super boring first date. It's part of my patented "Abby Screening Process".

a reply to: Quantum12
Assuming there is a first date Thank you for the kind words.