I and me pesty besty here are now depressed
We've had nothing but bad luck with men. She's so paranoid she thinks someone may have done something to her car. And is mad because some (work
related) guy snubbed her. I do believe this person to have the hots for her and that makes him mad because he's married. And she's out of his league
I say it's the hand of fate because today's the deadline for our (local, city) vehicle stickers, which go on the inside, and she can't get in the car,
key battery failed. Replacements not working either. It's simple logic. Murphy's Law dictates that of course this will happen on the day before you
need your sticker on.
I say relax. The cops were cool about it. They could've thrown you into the Homan Square "black site". I don't think "this guy" would've done anything
He's a weird guy anyway. And men do have that tactic where they for some reason think it will bring them success by being rude to good looking women.
Or I suppose anyone they lust after.
Here's a depressing thing she showed me:
Yeah I know it, I'm not half bad myself, and men have always been weird around me. From nasty lechers to mean people to guys that seemed ok and then
you go out with them for awhile and they become clingy and controlling. And even worse: guys who act like they're all in favor of your plans while
biding their time to launch their ulterior motives. Which generally boil down to trying to get you pregnant in order to lock you down.
This has a label, a term for it, it's called Reproductive Coercion.
I do need to thank my friend here for putting me onto that. It has a name.
And there is too much info to link, just search this. Which I urge all to do because you need to watch out for people who might attempt this.
You can't trust anyone because you never know. If you are good looking men are often strange and weird around you, and often flat out rude and
Yes. Not all. But when you had enough of this you begin to see all people this way and you can't trust anyone. You think everyone is a liar or user or
player. And get with a so called 'nice guy' and he's trying to turn you into Stepford Wife.
And because of this you don't have "feelings", right? You literally can't feel what others do. Paranoia?
Well you do feel robbed of something, somehow.
I said to my friend, you're past 40 now and you will care less. Live for yourself. And this is rather disturbing to me and sad but I understand too
because I was sick and injured in the past too. She was sick a few years ago and says "the chemo drugs killed off what was left of the sex drive." And
claims she's got menopause already because no more periods. This could be, I think serious illness and strange drugs can do it to you, even if you are
kind of young for that. It could be though.
There are what they call the "invisible disabilities". Sure you might be 40 but you look late 20s and are attractive and people have their own
Some guy said to her, a worker come in for repairs : Why are you here? And further interrogation as to her work. Yeah you call a person to come fix
something for you and - this? In her words she said - I'm here because of YOU! Right, I asked you to come and fix whatever.
Yes it's all extremely bizarre. Men say the damned strangest things to you. Often in a confrontational manner. I know this guy too and, yeah. What the
hell? Do these types, which are known to hang around dive bars, walk into said bar and shout at the bartender: Why are YOU here?
I missed something about "being sick", which is that did it ever occur to people that some others might be anti social because they have been
And when there are injury lawyers advertising on TV 24 7, people see those ads day in and day out and yet it does not occur to them that
someone may have been sick?
My friend is mad. And apologizing for pestering me. She says: I don't have anyone else to talk to.
It's ok because I don't either and I take the same crap.
There's another point I'm missing here, which is that people make assumptions about you. In the same way you could say a person might not know you
were sick, true, but they should know enough to be open minded. Or to at least think "I don't really know this person, I should not make snap
judgements let alone say mean things to them."
Here's where "the car" could work as analogy too (and trust I am not mocking those into cars, I do have a Jaguar myself), people will be jealous of
that too. You have a 40 thousand dollar sports car? Sure they're jealous! And men wise (women too), people assume a husband or sugar daddy bought you
the car. And not only will they not talk to you, or fear approaching you, they may sneer at you as a "gold digger" or something, I guess, the angry
ones may give you looks, few dare to engage with you out of fear, but also the guys who might be interested, and might be a good guy - they are
And it never seems to occur to people that we girls might be into cars and know how to shop for, maintain, and mod them. Hell, some of us might even
have degrees in mechanical engineering.
This never occurs to people. Especially men. And Suburban Dads try to race us in their family trucksters! LOL NO Dad! I don't know about my car but
friend says 'only Lotus and up go'. And a particular Corvette engine which the details I already forgot.
Yeah men. I haven't had the best of luck either. Also, you best watch what you say about your education because then you might be "too smart". Men
don't like smart women. Some will argue against this, and it may be true for some, age comes into this too because the Old School guys are not so open
Bottom line: If you are reasonably intelligent and even slightly above average looks wise: Men are jerks to you. You cannot trust any of them. And
even if they do seem somewhat ok, they may have hidden plans for you.
And you can't relax at all, sex seems like a chore. They test you a lot and try to manipulate and "gaslight" you. And let's not forget what the kids
call "Negging" these days. That's nothing new.
Why they can't just act as a decent, caring person I don't know. Act as how they act toward their friends and family.
And again, "Not All Men". But when you've had so much of this you get totally burnt out and paranoid and you can never really trust people. It
mentally maims you in many ways.
Read that linked article I posted, and the comments. Read it and weep.
This is us.