My daughter in law has been struggling with a Meth addiction since she was 14. She is 30 and the mother of my two grandsons. My son has tried to take
the boys and leave, but she flips out so hard, he is afraid to try again. 2 yrs ago he tried to leave and she got pregnant (we arent sure its my sons)
and had an anchor baby so he couldnt leave. They are not married, but have been together for over 10 yrs. She doesnt have much of a police record, but
she did have a dirty test while pregnant with her last child. She is really abusive. She actually put a cigarette out on his back and he has a scab
the size of a quarter right now. Its a roller coaster, she has a sister who has 5 kids and is addicted to meth and that is where she gets it.
Several years ago, I tried to have a pow wow with her mom and dad, to possibly have a tough love intervention, but I ended up being the bad guy
because I didnt protect her dirty little secrete and now my daughter in law hasnt spoken to me for the last few years. I only know what the truth is
because not only does my son tell me, but one of my nephews went up and stayed for a week. And the horror stories he told me are just over the top.
She refuses to allow me any contact with the kids.
My son can no longer think with his own brain. He lives in constant fear of her and her escapades. Does there come a time when a grandparent needs to
step in and get the authorities involved? Im worried that my son will loose the boys. Because she doesnt have a solid meth related record, and they
are not married. Although he is listed on the birth certs as the father. And because he has been stuck so long trying to help her stop and in my
opinion he is now a part of the problem because he has enabled her for so long, and I dont think he is thinking clearly from the abuse.
Im constantly helping them financially, because she steals the cash and then someone has to keep the lights on, and its me that is picking up the
slack. I feel that Im enabling her. So, Ive decided that I will not help them anymore. Only because, I think the only way out is to let their life
fall apart. If they get evicted, and the whole thing goes bust, then that gives him a way out. And its really awful for me to be supporting a family I
cant even get to see and grandsons I cant enjoy. But, I hate to drag my grandsons through more trauma.
At this point, my son needs to grab the kids and run. But, he is so abused he cant even get a plan. My 18 yr old daughter just wants to go steal the
kids and go to my sisters in Oregon. But, I dont want her to go to jail for kidnapping. I own a rental property that is vacant right now, Ive offered
to give him the house just to get him out of there. But, he is afraid to move into it, because he knows she will burn it down or something horrid when
she is tweeking.
My daughter in law is RH negative, and we all have abduction experiences, including my 8 yr old grandson. I know she is self medicating. We all have
endured some really bad missing time, abduction experiences. www.abovetopsecret.com...
But, no one can fix it for her.
Ive read a lot of online forums on the subject, but havent found any real solutions. Has anyone been through this? We are not the type of people to
throw someone away because they have problems, and I can personally assure you have have done everything in my power to get her help. She doesnt want
help. She wants to sleep until 3 pm wake up like a horrid dragon, make sure everyone is miserable then go back to bed on come down days. On up days,
she is up all night going through drawers and making a huge mess so my son has to clean it up. When my nephew was there, he had cracked a doz eggs and
whipped them to make scrambled, she came in the kitchen, grabbed the bowl of eggs and in her rage threw them all over the kitchen. Raw eggs,
everywhere, cabinets, floors, appliances, everywhere. So, the whole kitchen had to be cleaned. You cant let a small toddler play in raw egg. She went
back to bed so my nephew and son had to scrub the whole kitchen to make it safe for a toddler. My son is disabled he wrapped his car around a tree 15
yrs ago, but he is the one struggling to take care of the home and family.
Should I just call the police? What if she isnt tweeking when the go check on the family?, and I look like a vindictive mother in law? Will we be